Polls: Relationships

I let my ex boyfriend borrow 20K for his rent, 5K for his medial check up, restaurant bills which I forgot to count many times, shipping tickets that cost 4K, hotels and etc. which I believe would cost more or less 50K in total

my ex boyfriend has asked me to loan before for a motorbike. I don’t want to but he forced me promising he’s gonna pay monthly. but my family knew about it so they stolen the motorbike and sell it for 42K. Now I am keeping the money.

I dropped everything for my boyfriend to stay with him which I believe I spent more a lot. I sacrificed a lot of things but He only cheated me with another woman. Who he boast to me who has more money and can meet his needs. And now, my best friend is gone, my stable work is gone, my health sucks of std, my body becomes thin.

what shall I do should I return the money or not?

My friend is a girl, she's bisexual, same as me and we've been friends for 2 years and sometimes we go on omegle and every time someone asks her to kiss my cheek or something like that she does it, one time she even kissed my neck

and when someone says that we're hot or cute she looks at me and says "shes the only cute/hot one here"

So my boyfriend was engaged 3 years ago and we’ve been together for 1 year and my family loves him as much as I do. They added him on Facebook and realized all his old pictures with his ex fiancée were still up. They say it’s really rude for those to still be up but I don’t really mind since they haven’t had contact since their breakup and he says he’s completely over her. Should I listen to my family and ask him to delete the old photos or just leave him to do his own thing?

Let’s for arguments sake, you already knew they lived near by , their lease
was running out, They were liking for a place near by and your complex is in an excellent location for them... Near work school transportation library park etc

So , there are obvious reasons they may want to move there that have nothing to do with you.

Still, would you find it disturbing?

Yes. No. Maybe?

Would you care HOW you found out?

Question is inspired by this tweet, but I changed it a bit so it’s not specific to a gender.

My mother has been fake nice to him for nearly 4 years. In the past she has meddled in our relationship and once tried to purposely break us up by spreading a lie about him to others.

She did a peaceful, reconciliation talk with him. However, he hasn't forgiven her because it was insincere. Is he right not to forgive my mother? He dislikes her by now and before this pandemic, I would be the only one visiting her. In his view, he can't forgive someone that never admitted their wrongdoing (her apology was full of excuses, blame shiftings and it had a bunch of buts and ifs), isn't sorry, continues being a fake and never took responsibility on improving things.

We are in a long distance relationship with someone living in NZ and is from my home country only. It's been a month now. And he asked me what my goals are and I said I'm not sure but want to do mba in my home country and work here where as he is in NZ and is calling me there. He said me I should take loan to pay for fees of NZ masters and come there and stay with him and do masters in NZ and that I shouldn't worry about job thingy. So bdw, I'm an introvert and have less friends and he was like name three friends and I just have one best friend to be honest and he asked me why I don't have friends. I am very reserved and he has problem with me not having friends stating how will I grow despite having a good job and that I won't be able to survive in corporate world. He said me thrice that in home country, you're paid less and abroad you're not and that I should come to NZ. He asked me why i, 23 year old girl not getting promoted and i said that it's p been a year and a half. He is 24 and asked me why no wfh for me and I said the reason that I don't have access to those softwares at home and will resume office after lockdown gets over coz here still everything is shut. He said that he'll leave me if he gets someone like him. I asked him why not leave me right away and he said that he doesn't have anyone rn. He don't have time to find one. He wouldn't leave me because he loves me. Such contradictory statements. He suddenly talked about pre-nup that he'll make me sign before marriage stating I won't get a single penny after divorce that made me wonder why he talked to me like that. He aslo mentioned about the break up part and asked me if I want to break up and I said that if you have problem with me, you should break up and make decision right away. Then he says he doesn't wanna break up. I totally don't understand what to do. Should I break up?

do you think it’s ok for your partner to like others pictures? As a girl, I can say it does upset me especially when it is a “sexy” photo. And there is certain girls that he will literally like every single one of their photos, so I want to know how everyone else feels when it comes to this. Does it upset you? Or are you ok with it? No hate please, I am not possessive I am just insecure, but I do not think I am alone on this

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Siren: Confident. Sensual. Erotic. May be noncommittal.
Sophisticate: Elegant. Graceful. Dignified. Rational.
Boss: Confident. Competent. Assertive. Calm. Unemotional. Emotionally independent. May be judgmental.
Bohemian: Independent, pleasure-seeking, confident, goal-oriented, free spirit.
Coquette: Confident. Freedom seeking. Passionate. Assertive. Outspoken. Adventurous. Emotionally self-sufficient. Doesn't easily become attached. Demands respect.
Goddess: Serene. Otherworldly. Spiritual. Sensual. Grounded. Introverted, but enjoys attention and connection.
Enigma: Soulful. Spiritual. Reclusive. Aloof. Quirky. Very introverted. Doesn't crave attention.
Diva: Warm. Sensual. Leader. Competitive. Seeks marriage.
Empress: Seeks marriage. Inspires partner by showering him with attention. May be prone to jealousy and possessiveness.
Sensualist: Nurturing. Affectionate. Sensual. Spontaneous. Warm. Down-to-earth.
Lady: Nurturing. Affectionate. Warm. Motherly. Caretaker. Emotionally available. Pampers partner & feeds his ego.
Ingenue: Charming. Sensual. Possesses womanly sex appeal & girlish innocence. May be codependent.
Gamine: Youthful personality. Playful. Spontaneous. Compassionate. Creative. May be sexually inhibited, codependent, and/or prone to depression, but may also become fully mature & grow into her power, becoming creative, sensual, spiritual, and wise, meanwhile maintaining a youthful personality.

Which of these personalities seems most attractive to you in a marital partner? I had to put more than 1 archetype in each option because there weren't enough options, but click the option that contains the archetype you find most appealing.