Polls: Relationships

I would be E: a variety pack with A, B, and D in my "box".

Does a real true love connection happen instantly or does it take time before it happens cuz u really have to get to know a person really well?

also if someone says they love u within a shorty period of time like within 3 weeks, is it a huge red flag?

Somebody asked a question about dating trans males. I thought it was an interesting question but was curious about other trans people.

This question is for people who are sexually attracted to a single gender, so straight or gay people (not bi or asexual).

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Use anonymous if you like and tell us why you are having an affair.

Is it lust, is it a bad relationship, is it abuse causing you to do it, is it because the deep emotional connection that you once had is gone, is it better sex?

Are you receiving the emotional connection you want if you are female, or if you are male, is it just the sex that you are getting out of it that you feel that you have to have?

Do you know anyone that has been involved in an affair? ... why did they do it?

I hate to admit it, but I have a girlfriend that has affairs behind her boyfriend's back with both guys and bi or lesbian girls. I hate that she does that and have told her that she is wrong to do this to her boyfriend. I think he knows she is doing it, but just tries to ignore it. I can not figure it out.

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Someone made a question about women not changing their last name during marriage, and I found it laughable that most of the men opposed it.

The man's last name was traditionally given to the woman because the man was the head of the household. Why? Because the man paid the bills. So it was his house, and since she was joining his house, she took his last name.

Nowadays (in addition to doing most of the housework and undergoing the pregnancies etc) women are expected to pay the bills equally, so it's no longer the man's house, so why should she be expected to take his last name?

It seems to me that a lot of modern men want the benefits of being head of household, but not the responsibility.

Did you get any interesting information out of them?
How did it turn out?

So me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now, I’d say our relationship has been really good so far. Barring the few times I cheated on her, but fortunately she never found out. Anyways, recently she’s been suspecting that I’m cheating on her. When I’m not, I mean I did cheat on her but that was months ago. So, she asked to see my phone, I told her she’s not allowed to, I forgot that she knew the password though, silly me. So one day, I went to the store, forgot the phone home and she couldn’t mind her own business so she went in and read my messages with the girl I cheated on her with. So now I know that I can’t trust her, since she went through my phone although I told her not to. I don’t know if I’m able to trust her anymore, she’s mad because she knows I cheated on her, but it’s her fault; I told her to not go through the phone. What should I do?

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... or is it more a way of saying..."I want my cake and eat it too"?

In other words, you still want her, when you need her, but when there is another girl that you want to fool around with, you want to be able to do that without consequence to someone else that has feelings for you?

When deciding to leave or begin a relationship, do you trust that gut feeling telling you what to do? Has it ever been wrong?

This means... view is that there is a discrepancy between women's stated preferences and their actual choices in men.
AND
discrepancy between men's stated preferences and their actual choices in women

For example:
women say that they want nice guys, but really go for men who are "jerks" or "bad boys" in the end.
OR
men say that they want nice girls, but they real go for women who are "bad girls" or "bitches" in the end

For example ,

If your significant other caught you cheating by snooping through your social media messages and all the photos you've liked of the opposite sex. would you be angry?