Do relationships get easier or more difficult overtime? Why?

[ryantangle]

Easy

Difficult

[Aysen]

It'll be combination of both in their own unique ways, similar to that of a double-edged sword. You'll become more familiar and adaptable with your partner as time progresses, yet you'll grow to understand the complications that form within your exclusive relationship with them. These complications will vary from lifestyle differences, to disagreements, to adapting to each other's personality type.

Each relationship comes with their benefits and challenges that are inevitable to avoid. It'll take effort, it'll take commitment and it'll take a great sense of understanding to know if the relationship you pursue will provide more happiness for both you and your partner or if it'll cause toxicity in the long run. Couples usually have little to no trouble in the beginning, getting caught with infatuation, ignoring potential flaws that are in front of themselves. After that period ends, that's when the true test comes out; when true colors are exposed and will ultimately determine whether the relationship can survive or not.

Relationships can be easier if both partners cooperate and communicate about their needs and wants, following them through to ensure consistency and reliability. On the other hand, they can be harder to maintain if there's resentment being built up and/or a lack of understanding to what's most important in the relationship. After being in a relationship for almost 10 years with my girlfriend, I'd be lying if I said it was cupcakes and rainbows all the time, as relationships are often falsely portrayed as nearly perfect and easy to maintain in movies and social media. I find the benefits to outweigh the negatives but this will differentiate from couple to couple.

Relationships will make your life easier and harder in their own way. Decide for yourself if you're willing to part from the lifestyle you're used to and adapt to having a lover with you for as long as you're with them in the relationship. Hopefully it'll be easier than harder for the most part!

[Apope16]

Both. The basic things in terms of knowing your partner and their likes and dislikes and what they are about gets easier. The basics of sex gets easier because you know one another. Always having someone to come home to and talk with or always having a date to do fun things with gets easier.

What is soooo hard is making the relationship not become boring once everything is normal. How do you keep that fire going? How do you stay exciting? Some couples fight and cause drama just because they are bored.

Most importantly. How do you not take your partner for granted? That is whats hard.

[AmandaYVR]

No, not necessarily. In some ways they get easier, because you get to know each other and you iron out the kinks, theoretically there’s more time and understanding to do this.
However you then have to deal with the initial spark that once began the relationship fading. All that intensity and passion is amazing, but it’s not going to remain the same, and it’s very risky to go out and try to recreate it with every new person. The chemistry and compatibility will always vary, there’s no guarantees.
So a wise person accepts that you gain some things, and lose others. But that’s life.
Some may get more difficult, which could be an indication of lack of the kind of compatibility that is needed over the long term. But one should never be dismissive about life events, misfortune, bad luck, the inevitable intermittent problems. No one can escape that. And at that time, you have to try and untangle, unpack the reasons and causes for why the relationship seems more difficult - is it because of circumstances, or deeper underlying issues between the people?

[jennifer_bloom]

I voted difficult - cause I had this issue with my female friends - we like each other at first then I get to know them and we argue - til I no longer want to be friends.

[AzureGirl]

A mix of both. It gets easier because the longer you’re together the more used to each other’s company, quirks, and schedules. You adapt.

It gets more difficult at times because life still happens and things can always change that throws your usual balance off. Like a move, a change in job, college, a health condition, etc. But it’s up to the couple to rise up and overcome the difficult parts together.

[Suchismita]

I think relationships gradually get difficult over time because of this one fact that ' people are more difficult then it seems '.

When we meet someone for the first time, they tend to potray their best selves. Its over time that we discover their unlovable parts, for most of us its quite difficult to continue loving them despite of their ugly sides

:)

[Adam1978]

A relationship get easier but not relationships as in plural, ie shifting partner means a new mine field and other issues, it not easy to start over, your basically back to square one and have to learn your partners issues all over again.

[AynonOMouse]

If you are actually compatible morally, have some interests in common, and have compatible long term life goals it should get easier over time.
If it is getting more difficult over time, that is a sign that you aren't actually compatible for long term.

[Anonymous]

I heard something recently which said that couples who had big fights early on were better off for it later, they cleared the air and made the adjustments they needed to, its not good to try to keep the peace and have unresolved issues festering.

Trying to find someone for a relationship if you are single is much, much harder the older you get.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Does your brand new house becomes better and the structure stronger with time? Obviously no. Time wears things down. Same with relationships, the longer you are with a person the more weaker the relationship gets unless both people put seriously efforts to renew their relationship and love for another.

[foxrider77]

The more you communicate the easier it gets. If y’all just plant your face in your phones the harder it gets. Hey look at me I’m not paying attention to you because I’m checking what my fake friends from high school think.

[Trojan6]

In my opinion its should get difficult because in a difficult times partners will grow trust and show true care to one another.
Most of the relation fail when they face a difficut or an unwanted situation in their life.
Life is only for the survivors
You have to adapt and learn to make it easier.🙂

[sugathari]

Difficult. You put a lot of effort and time into it at the early and then as time moves forward you realise there are a lot of things that need your focus and the bond starts slipping down the downward slope and both of you want to be understood and get you expectations fulfilled raised up by mere infatuation during the honeymoon/fantasy land period.

[mattmanyah2]

Both day to day gets a lot easier but the fights have a lot more on the line those get harder but you got to put what's important in view.

[ryantangle]

Yea good point

[Anonymous]

More difficult as you come across difficulties in life that shifts your focus from your partner and that's when it gets tested how real your love is. And when the honeymoon phase ends and things turn mundane and you know each other for real.

[ryantangle]

But dont you think if your marrige gets more difficult overtime it eventually turns into a bad marriage because it just keeps getting more difficult?

[Flower7]

Probably more difficult, since the honeymoon phase can wear off and the couple has to work to come up with ways to avoid boredom and keep things interesting.

[Smccoy217]

I would say the trials are harder, but you're a better team. Money problems come in later on, and that's like the leading cause of relationships ending.

[Dusr77]

Difficult. first few months are like living a fantasy. Then the true personalities start to show up. Then the phase "trying so hard to keep the relationship".

[Browneye57]

It really depends on the couple, and what they've built together over the duration of the marriage. If they have worked out their differences and learned how to manage strife, then very much stronger. If they haven't, it may be on it's last legs.

[crazy8000]

Depends on if one of them has attitude problems.

It becomes what both makes.

(Many female's tends to be the one making it to a shit pool and tries to pin it on the other one. even in same sex relationships)

[Trooper205]

It depends on the Couple, for sure! For me and my Girl, it gets easier! ❤️❤️
It'll get tough sometimes, for sure.

[DampCloth]

It depends on the people and how you resolve conflicts. Some people rarely fight because they resolve things easily but some people disagree on more things and aren’t meant for each other.

[RLovesD7792forever]

difficult because they cheat lie talk shit about you behind your back manipulate the situation and you in their favor you name it they do it

[genericname85]

Neither. There are easy times and hard times. It fluctuates.