Polls: Relationships

More or less the “you have a great personality” cliche.

So my man moved out of town for work and he’s renting a room from a woman around our age. I had no issue with that at all. He’s been there about two weeks and will be moving into his own place on the first. About 3 to 4 nights ago she knocked on his door while we were on the phone and asked what type of rice he wanted her to make for dinner. I told him that seemed a little odd, but didn’t make a big fuss about it, he assured me there was nothing to worry about. Yesterday she got into a car accident and called him to pick her up. Today he called after work and told me he was out shopping. I asked if he was alone he said “no my roommate called me because she was out getting her lashes done and wanted a ride home. I told her I was headed to do some shopping and she wanted to go. So I picked her up and now we’re out running some errands.” Am I wrong for starting to feel uncomfortable? Or like he’s being too friendly?

boyfriend only offers to pay or get gifts on special occasions…. the rest of the time it’s 50/50……should he offer more? Or is he not obligated since we’re not yet married?

we are in a committed relationship and have met each others families…

also anytime he buys me a coffee he then says I can’t expect it every time…. is this rude or is it an honest comment?

my partner wants me to help him to become a better person is by keeping him in check if i noticed he is not present in the moment, not listening etc.

The atmosphere of social media seems very show off and braggy most profiles, You tube channels are comprised of people posting about a job promotion, good grades, travelling, photos of their babies or their partners, PDA or of themselves, their looks, clothing, physic, wealth, possessions, academic accomplishments etc... and there are even posts where they write personal intimate praises publicly while it's meant for a select few of the people in their lives for likes...

No wonder so many social media users are depressed or end up leaving social media, you may just end up comparing your failures to the bragging, show off posts of others if you're on there. I kind of miss when social media wasn't a thing and we were all curious about one each others lives because most of us just lived private lives, nowadays most people put everything out there on social media you almost feel as though you know everything about that person even when you have never even met them in person.

what are your thoughts?

I get the need to brag every once in a while, giving yourself a pat on the back when you’re good at something for example. Like all eyes were on me at this party, I killed it at this or that, I’m good at my job etc. But in my opinion it’s all about moderation, when you’re cocky & feel the need to always give yourself praise & then come across as condescending to others at times that’s when I have an issue. 29F & I’ve experienced this with men & women in my life. The women were self absorbed & the men were conceited & I chose to distance myself from all of them. Maybe I’m overly an avoidant attachment style but my mom for example would suggest I keep these people in my life just don’t expect much from them or to just keep them at arms length. At the same time, I’m not in the mood to be around people that bring me down or are so full of themselves, how is this not draining to people? Again self praise is definitely called for but when you’re bragging or coming across like you’re better than everyone else…that’s kind of a problem.

It seems like fewer people are good with their hands these days whether it's building, repairing, or creating things. Do you prefer a handy partner?