Do you think people that act conceited are insecure deep down?

[Dsg1193]

I get the need to brag every once in a while, giving yourself a pat on the back when you’re good at something for example. Like all eyes were on me at this party, I killed it at this or that, I’m good at my job etc. But in my opinion it’s all about moderation, when you’re cocky & feel the need to always give yourself praise & then come across as condescending to others at times that’s when I have an issue. 29F & I’ve experienced this with men & women in my life. The women were self absorbed & the men were conceited & I chose to distance myself from all of them. Maybe I’m overly an avoidant attachment style but my mom for example would suggest I keep these people in my life just don’t expect much from them or to just keep them at arms length. At the same time, I’m not in the mood to be around people that bring me down or are so full of themselves, how is this not draining to people? Again self praise is definitely called for but when you’re bragging or coming across like you’re better than everyone else…that’s kind of a problem.

Yes

No

[Finchie40]

Yes most people that act that way are , they feel they have to be better than what they actually are to be accepted by others’ it sadly happens more than we like to think it does , because most people have a hard time accepting who they are as a person , they are insecure about themselves and think nobody will like them or accept them , so they act like their shit don’t stink, to make themselves feel better about themselves. It’s honestly sad to watch. The truth is some people were just born with a silver spoon in their hand , they were raised to believe they do nothing wrong , they had parents that catered to them and gave them everything , they barely ever had to lift a finger and barely ever heard the word NO , No matter what they did , their parents put them on a pedestal and praised them. So if they aren’t getting the attention that they were used to receiving when growing up , by other people , they put themselves on a higher pedestal , over everyone else , hoping to gain that attention. Not realizing they look like an idiot , they aren’t use to not receiving attention. Sadly people that seek validation and attention from others’ are people that can’t be trusted , when they don’t get their way , they will run to someone else, hoping to get their way , they can never admit they were wrong , because they were raised to believe they do no wrong , it is always someone else’s fault , This goes for a lot of guys’ and girls’ that sadly have selfish mindsets , thinking they can never be wrong. Why so many relationships fail these days , mainly because of selfish mindsets , Social media totally contributed to making more people have selfish mindsets , making people believe they deserve better than what they already have right in front of them. Comparing their lives to others’ thinking they deserve what the other person has , thinking they were put on Earth to be catered to. Sadly everyone has selfishness inside themselves , if you can’t remove that selfishness from inside yourself , don’t expect someone else to remove it for you. We can all easily be selfish but Love doesn’t grow until you learn to remove that selfishness for someone else , we can only give what we want to receive in return , it won’t always be perfect but when you remove that selfishness for someone else, it makes it easier for that someone else to remove it for you. People should not get into relationships until they learn how to remove selfishness period

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah I'd say so.

I never liked praise based attention, it's like "hey, I didn't pick you to hang out with, why are you bothering me?" So I tend to hide my prowess/achievements/skills when I can, and when I can't, I tend to change the topic or talk about it in a way thats objective if someone starts praising me.

For example, if I do well at making an illlustration, i'll go on about the thing I made and what it is and its backstory or how it works or whatever, diverting the conversation away from the skill it took to illustrate it, and redirecting it to something I actually find interesting.

To me, its just like, "who gave you the absurd idea that I needed your approval?".

[TheSpaceGnome]

Basically to me, bragging is the polar opposite of that, its begging for approval.

[Nikki1989]

That probably has a lot to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But not necessarily about the way they look, even though I'm sure there's a bit of that to. Those types of people's attractiveness does not make up for their 💩 personality, and the KNOW it deep down. So they are always trying to gaslight other people into thinking there's something wrong with them. Because if you're too busy considering what MIGHT be wrong with you. You won't see what is GLARINGLY wrong with them.

People who are comfortable in themselves do not need to be conceited. Because they know their natural goodness will naturally draw others to them.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Often so. Something I often look for in those is a sense of humor. The humorous ones often seem more secure in themselves. It's the dead serious ones I find to often have some deep-rooted insecurities.

[spartan55]

I think so. I've always believed that you should NEVER point out how great/rich/smart/hot etc you are to others. Let them arrive to that conclusion on their own.

[Purpleronnie]

I think that can often be at the root but it’s clearly not definitive.. the higher you elevate yourself the more people want to trip you up and bring you down.

[aceleon]

i am kind of conceited but i really don't feel insecure, i have NOTHİNG to be insecure off i accept every flaw of myself and either change them or live with them.

[Billlewis]

No, not at all. In my experience, if someone thinks they're superior to everyone else, they usually are

[Iron_Man]

I think so and there’s some males and females here that are that way on here but I can’t name names

[LiamJHayden]

Some are. Some are just delusional.

[lildkman1010]

I use to be insecure so yes