Girls like me when I act like an asshole. But I hate to be like that. But girls won’t like me if I am my true self?

[Kaazsz]

If I’m mean to girls they love it. If I act like I think I’m better than other people, they love it.

It all started off as an innocent joke. I was mr shy loser that girls ignored (not all. I’m lucky to be handsome so sometimes girls like me just for that and did not care if I was shy awkward and weird.)

Even still, handsome or not, 99% of girls ignore my existence once they realized I was mr shy nice guy.

But here and there, I would make a joke making myself sound mean or conceited. BOOM suddenly every girl wants to laugh at smile with me, hug me, talk and flirt with me.

As time has gone on I’ve gotten better at being a jerk around girls. So much so that I realized that I don’t like it.

I don’t like being mean. I don’t like acting like I’m better than anyone else. I just end up doing it around females because they treat me so well and give me so much attention when I do.

Now I dont know what to do. I thought that I had improved with girls. That I gained confidence and all that. Maybe I did to some degree. But I feel like most of it was just girls treating me nice when I acted like a dickhead and now I am good at doing that and getting female attention.

I guess I’m still just a loser nice guy. Now I can be mean and get girls to like me but at the end of the day it’s all pointless. I’m not a piece of shit asshole in reality. I just accidentally have been pretending to be one because of all the praise and attention I’ve gotten from girls recently.

I’ll say the craziest mean shit. A girl tried to tell me a story. I said “shut up bitch you just want attention.” So she laughs and says “yea I know!”

I don’t know. Maybe you’re supposed to be like that with them. It certainly gets their attention and affection.

[bobalife]

I’m not sure what kind of girls you’re attracting to... but as a female... douchebags are not attractive even if they are physically attractive.

Definitely be your authentic and best version of yourself is my advice. Don’t change from a nice guy to a mean guy for the wrong crowd of attention :/ You night missed a really great girl if it continues. Wouldn’t you want someone to like you for you just as you would for them? I hear a lot of women who feels disappointed that there’s not a lot of nice and great guys around... so you’re probably just encountering the wrong crowd who may like the “bad boy” type or something. Goodluck!

[Dchrls78104]

A change of scenery is in order. Do not destroy yourself for the sake of the opinions of those fools. They are bad news. They are not worth your time or trouble. Ultimately they will despise you anyway when your real character comes out. Rather be yourself and alone. You will feel better about yourself that way.

[Kaazsz]

I feel like I can’t even resist it. It just happens and I don’t realize until after. I actually was clueless that I was being more mean in general for a while.

Then one day I was mean to a girl who was far from popular. And then I realized that I was being an asshole. And I had been mean to the weirdo shy girl who didn’t deserve it.

But the rest of them loved it. After that I’ve been like, watching myself and them. I noticed that I just get spun up in it. Wrapped up, the gas is going and I can’t stop. Then suddenly I’ll realize it and I’ll stop talking and they think I’m mad at them lol.

I don’t know what kind of scenery I need. Unless rich girls are the ones who act different I don’t know if it matters. Like what group of females is not like this? I don’t know. I feel like all of them like a guy who is a jerk. They just love assholes. It’s actually true in the end. It’s not just “nice guys” being crybabies. It’s actually true lol.

[Dchrls78104]

Whatever gets you away from that particular set of girls is the kind of scenery you need, along with some honest introspection. They are vapid and toxic and, if you stay around them long enough, they will treat you the same way, or else you will really become like them and regret it. Already you know it is wrong, and this is a good start; finish off by dissociating yourself from them.

[Kaazsz]

I just don’t think it’s just “them.” I feel like it’s most women. Maybe I’m wrong. It’s not just my friends. It’s a lifetime of experience. It’s just before, girls didn’t like me. Now that they like me I feel like I’ve seen the truth that I was living in all along. I don’t know. If I hung out with a bunch of female doctors would they be different? I doubt it to be honest.

[Dchrls78104]

If they like your being mean to others, they don't really like you. Any "friendship" you gain by pretending to be what you are not, or by being mean to others, is shallow at best and transitory (short-lived). One day it will end when they start being mean to you. You don't need that kind of "friendship" ; you are better off by yourself with your self-respect and personal convictions intact.

[Trolloween]

Shut up bitch you just want attention