If you SO told you that they did not find you attractive/beautiful/handsome, how would you react?

[NotTacocaT6969]

More or less the “you have a great personality” cliche.

Break up

Say you don’t find them attractive/beautiful/handsome either

Slap them

Stay in the relationship but refuse sex

Pretend it didn’t happen

Other (explain)

[NathanDavis]

how do I end up in a full on relationship with them first...

and then find out about this later... lol

seems backwards to me

now, I know very well I am not the "beautiful type" like that so I would never ever expect that description but... girlfriends have always found me attractive and been attracted and while yes, my personality has definitely been the main factor, it is never the only factor, lol...

so... how come does people end up in relationships first, then leave it for later to find out if basic things are aligned or not aligned... lol

[NotTacocaT6969]

It seems you don’t have enough life experience to participate in this survey.

Amazing someone can be 34 and not have a hurtful fight or fucked up relationship, not once, not even as a teenager.

[NathanDavis]

I truly hope I die without ever being in a toxic relationship

that much is true...

[NathanDavis]

and please forgive me for being THAT selective and only falling for fucking amazing people, lol...

so sorry...

[MrOracle]

Having a good personality is critically important - more important than good looks, and will certainly matter FAR more in the long run. Having said that, I would never say or intentionally imply that my girlfriend/SO wasn't attractive. I can't conceive of how that would ever possibly be productive.

If it happened to me, I would have some questions. I wouldn't immediately jump to conclusions, but if my girl didn't think I was attractive to her (even though we all know I'm a fat ugly fucker), then I would probably end things right there. I know I'm below average in conventional physical attractiveness - that's hardly a surprise - but a person's attractiveness goes far beyond the mere physical. Their personality and attitude and their morals all play a large part in how attractive I find them to be.

[IslaTheWitch]

it wouldn't happen.

I get to know people before thinking about anything else. I care about their personalities, individual traits, and the compatibility between our perspectives and characters. So before we share any interest or attraction, I already know what this person thinks about me and how I find this person.

I don't create relationships with strangers. To be sure of my emotions, I need to know and understand this person, so I'm sure I have feelings for a real human being, not the image of them I created in my head.

so I can't even imagine such situation... can't imagine a relationship with a stranger...

[SweetDripp]

I’d be inclined to end the relationship. I don’t have to be the sexiest woman in his eyes, but if he isn’t even attracted to me, that’s a problem.

[AviatorTom]

When my SO is really angry, that's one of her attack phrases. It originally hurt, but I've learned that it's just her defense mechanism. After she calms down, it's like she never said that.

[Apple1996]

Call him a bitch and leave 😌

[Uressa]

What do you expect though? You’re 27, that’s old for a girl. Why else would a guy like you? We hate women past 24. 18-21 ideally.

[Apple1996]

@Uressa my man is into older women

[Uressa]

@Apple1996 older women or can’t get a younger one. That’s the biggg question.

[Uressa]

Men only like older women to get quick sex not love

[Apple1996]

@Uressa my husband married me young but has always crushed on older women so he's happy that I'm getting older

[NotTacocaT6969]

@Uressa speaks for yourself you glorified pedophile.

I hope the next chick you sleep with castrates you.

[Uressa]

@NotTacocaT6969 so I’m a pedophile for liking women 18-21. 🤣🤣

It’s not my fault you both are finished. Make preferences are always shamed.

I hope your genes never pass on because you’re both near infertile.

[Uressa]

Just accept you’re old. 27/30 for a man is finally when we hit our peak, you had your peak 10 years ago.

[Apple1996]

@Uressa I'm pregnant right now so def not infertile 😅

[NotTacocaT6969]

@Uressq just accept that you’re a worthless old pervert who will end up dead in a ditch.

[Uressa]

I think being with a girl that’s past 25 is like a beautiful flower that’s beginning to shrivel up

[NotTacocaT6969]

Your body will fail you in 4 years.

You’ll go bald, get fat and no woman, not even women your own age will want anything to do with you.

[Friendlybro79]

I'd have to ask how would they like me to receive this information regarding what the next steps should be after one is told this because i can't change how I look. (at a normal weight for my height, in shape and I'm not looking to be a body builder).

It would be awful to hear but I'd need to learn more from the SO to act accordingly. Most likely it's figuring out how are we ending this.

[aceleon]

i wuld takethem to an eye doctor, a neuraolog or psycholog, she is either issues with her eyes or has damage in her brain or straight up have schizophrenia.

[Nikki1989]

That would mean he has been lying for the past 9 years.

[Phoenix98]

Well it's probably best to break up then because physical/sexual attraction is important in a relationship just as much as personality.

[rosemilk]

i'd be shocked as he tells me every single day he does lol

[tfan1]

If my wife did that, I’d straight out ask her then why did she go out with me, marry me and have our 11 year old son together?

[exitseven]

I have eyes. I know I am not very good looking. I have made peace with it a long time ago

[jahaims]

I don't think I'm attractive either so what do I care

[Anonymous]

Id dump her on the spot, because their would be no reason to continue the relationship.

[eagle1951]

be out looking again