So the person who inspired me to write this post wrote an article called "DON'T BE FOOLED BY THE SMOKE AND MIRRORS..." If you want the original article this idea is based on you can google that title I just gave you and you will find it

There are Twelve Pursuits You Can Use to Expand Your Social Skills and Build Better Engagement and Status with Others They Are
Character Expansion – The ability to behave in a way that is right and pure
Relationship Expansion – The ability to behave in a way that is faithful and beneficial and desirable
Responsibility Expansion – The ability to fulfill the expectations and obligations due to others at both fundamental and tertiary levels
Mind Expansion – The ability to acquire knowledge and use what is acquired
Humanitarianism Expansion – The ability to look past superficial things and see the person behind it
Creativity Expansion – The ability to think outside conformist rules and to negotiate new terminology when an old system is broken
Truth Expansion – The ability to consider the needs and experiences of others without deviating from what is respectful and required
Congruence Expansion – The ability to get along with different types of people by refusing to unnecessarily offend or deny consideration or palatability to them
Ambition Expansion – The ability to pursue goals even when they seem impossible and to self regulate when external markers of control are absent
Compensation Expansion – The ability and wiliness and sensibility to repay those who have served or helped them and the ability to express gratitude at an emotional level
Assertiveness Expansion – The ability to practically request payment or cooperation or regard that fits the circumstances and work the person has fulfilled
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