Do people really go to hell for having premarital sex with their partners before marriage?

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BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

I think it's very reasonable to say yes.

Here's a quick analogy to start. You're in heavy debt. A wealthy man offers not only to pay off your debt, but he also offers you a prestigious job. He only conditions that you live within your means, make better financial decisions, and otherwise try to better yourself. If you accept his offer, what do you think would happen if you did exactly the opposite of what he told you to do?

Now follow the analogy. God, through the words of Sacred Scripture, specifically condemns adultery and fornication. Jesus Christ became one of us and suffered a very excruciating, torturous death for us and subsequently rose from the dead for us in order to break the power of sin and death over us, but also to feed us with his own Body and Blood (Holy Communion) in order that we might have everlasting life. Therefore, if even after such a bitter and grueling Passion, one still engages in those actions, thoughts, and words from which we are commanded not to act, think, or speak, what ought one to expect to happen? This doesn't mean that sex, in and of itself, is sinful. When it is outside of its properly ordained context, which is marriage, it is sinful.

The best and simplest way to explain it is that marriage between a man and a woman symbolizes, is reflective of the union of Christ and His Church. Throughout the Bible, we hear about "the fullness of time", "my hour is not yet come", "the appointed time", and so forth. The meaning behind this is that God made a covenant with His chosen people, but it progressed in stages up until its fulfillment with the coming of Christ, His Passion and Death on Calvary, and His Resurrection from the dead and Ascension into Heaven.

Yes, God is gracious, merciful, good, and loving. He cannot be anything else. The question then is, as I begged earlier, what ought we to expect to happen if we indulge in those things which He not only forbids us to, but sent HIs Son to redeem us from them? Does anyone really want to take such a great gamble with their immortal soul and presume upon His Mercy and Love?

Walt832 · Accepted Answer

🤦‍♂️. I respect anyone beliefs. The reason they made this type of fear is for people start to behave. The Bible was created to place order and have control. That been said, you have the control to choose either is right or wrong use your gut feelings just remember whatever you push out there, positive or negative will come back unexpected.

Example, church says is a sin to drink alcohol you will end in hell. The reality is not after life is actually living it. How? Well drinking alcohol what causes? Liver... right. In the beginning everything is all cool you don't feel it but internally you damaging it without seen it. You are torturing your organs. Then after years liver results. Then who is living in hell you are because your body is not functioning and waiting for a donor. Then you start blaming God by saying "he is punishing me". The reality he isn't instead he is sad, why? You did it to yourself.

Instead being more appreciative the life he offer you in the beginning but you took advantage of it. Why not eat healthy and love yourself. When you love yourself you know what is right and what is wrong for you.

Same as relationships, take your time to know the person, don't rush. Rushing and fearing being alone once again is the worst move ever you can make, why? Either gal or guy may see your fear and could take advantage of it and just use you. Just remember he or she ain't the last Coca-Cola or Fanta 🤓 or specially tea there is many flavors 😉.

So... in other words no. You choose if is the right guy or gal, you choose what type of guy you want in your life a hell guy or heaven 🙃

pinkcactus484 · Accepted Answer

Hey, I can see why you would be worried about this.

From a Christian perspective, the most I can say is "probably not". God values our hearts, and that is how He will judge us (1 Corinthians 4:5). On the one hand, we need to be prepared to sacrifice our sex lives to God. On the other hand, if you believe that God is okay with sex before marriage, then your heart is probably okay in this matter. One key point some people might raise is whether or not you can be a Christian and truly be okay in your heart with same-sex marriage. There will be differing views on this.

With all that said, I am a universalist. This means that I do not believe that hell is eternal and that, in the end, everyone will end up in the New Jerusalem (that is to say, Heaven). This does not mean that I deny that hell exists. Rather, I just believe that hell will be emptied... eventually.

Despite that, it is better to seek God's will whilst we are on Earth. So whilst I would not have sex before marriage, you will need to look at God's Word and your own heart and different opinions on this issue before making that decision for yourself.

Sweetener_ · Accepted Answer

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (KJV) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither 'fornicators' nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

But guess what sis? There's still hope. God loves and can forgive your sins. All you have to do is bring fruits of repentance and repent. If you bring fruits of repentance God will forgive you, just make sure you turn from your sins completely.
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youknowbetter · Answer

Actually there is nowhere in scripture that premarital sex is a sin. But that doesn’t mean it’s okay. There is also online one line in the entire bible that hints at female homosexuality being a sin and even that is very vague.

BUT if Jesus said “if anyone of you here has looked at women lustfully you have already committed adultery in your heart” I don’t think he would be okay with lots of other things including premarital sex.

Anyway having a personal relationship and accepting him as your savior is what matters most. It’s were your heart is and repentance.

Also as for all you proud atheists on here. I’m a strong believer in free will. I think freedom of religion should be a worldwide right. But you angry fools act like the Spanish Inquisition is still going on nowadays when it comes to Christianity. The last I checked freedom or religion has been a foundation of America since the Salem Witch trials (before the American revolution for you dolts who skipped history class).

QUIT taking things a step further and attacking Christianity. If you really wanted to fight “religious persecution” grab a plan ticket to
the Middle East and try yelling at Muslims. Many countries over there have no separation between church and state. They still throw gays off buildings. They are REAL about female
oppression. But none of you cowards ever utter a word of criticism against Islam yet always tear into the easy target Christianity.

cntrytbm · Answer

If you're concerned about having or hell, I am assuming you have read the Bible or at least aware of his existence and are trying to decide where you stand and how to follow it.

With that said, it is my belief from what I've read and what I've been taught that premarital sex will not keep you from heaven. Not having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and not believing that he is God's only son and your savior of all sins, that is what keeps you from heaven.

Be well my friend. Try to do What you believe is right in your heart, love God and love his people and talk to Jesus regularly. That is the secret to happiness in this life.

Natashakir72 · Answer

Lol of course not. Even if god were real, she would have expected the people to have sex and not punish them to eternity in flames or whatever hell is supposed to be. Look, u can believe in god if you feel it helps you somehow, but don't accept all the threats of hell etc. I'm told some branches of christianity have no hell at all only heaven. (Protestant I think) and some can get anything forgiven by the priest or whatever I think that's catholic. So don't worry. Just fuck your boyfriend like the rest of us and enjoy it like the rest of us

JaneDoe377 · Answer

Well, in the Bible it says
Romans 3:22-23 KJV
'Even the righteousness of God which is by faith of Jesus Christ unto all and upon all them that believe: for there is no difference: [23] For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;...'
For God is no respecter of persons (God sees us all the same way : sinners.) but Jesus, part of the Trinity, became manifest in the flesh, to pay the price of sin for all people. All it takes is belief in what he did.
John 14:5-6 KJV
Thomas saith unto him, Lord, we know not whither thou goest; and how can we know the way? [6] Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
Rejection of Jesus is what sends anyone to hell.

YourGirlGigi · Answer

God is merciful and forgiven if you repent and stop having premarital sex. He loves you but hate the sin. The Bible says "Love covers a multitude of sin" Jesus died for the sins of the world. He also said those who do sin will not see the kingdom of God. That's those who continue to stay in their sins and not repent. There's a verse in the Bible that says "If my people will humble themselves, seek my face, call on my name and turn from their wick ways... I will hear from heaven and forgive their sin and heal the land."

akihon · Answer

Do people go to hell. That depends if you can prove to me that hell exists, that heaven exists.

It's an existential question really and all depends on what you personally believe. It's quite possible that he'll already exists and we are living in it, in which case it can be argued that why worry if we are already living in hell. Or the converse, we are in heaven so again it makes little difference.

The concepts of heaven and hell and God and the devil have always been things that bothered me, for example a serial killer of children can repent and ask to be forgiven, he or she must be forgiven, even if they aren't but ask for it and truly mean they are sorry they automatically get a pass into heaven but a mother of a child killed by that person, if she doesn't forgive she goes to hell.

Isn't that then the greatest joke of all.

samiammm · Answer

We may never know that but the belief is that it's a huge din.

Most religions forbid pre marital sex.

If all the religions over the world have a similar view about it, there must be some solid grounds.
I am not sure about hell but it is a sin for sure.

Also the specialness of the act goes away if it's done multiple times with multiple people.

My first kiss was with my friend.
So when I first kissed my current spouse, the same specialness wasn't there. Infact I was probably remembering my friend or maybe comparing sub consciously.

Also it doesn't mean you can go to second base or oral or anal
It's all sexual, just different levels.

TonyV · Answer

I personally dont believe in heaven or hell, so I donr think it's even possible, you will have to read up on your religion, I know some of them you can repent, be forgive for your sins in the eye of the lord. Some religions may not even consider it a sin.

Maybe you should tell us your religion so that someone may be able to actually speak on the believes of it, may not what is considered a sin for your situation.

If hell is real I think about 80% of people are going there cause there are so many different religions, and atheists like me, and only those following the one right god will make it too hsaven. So if hell is real I'm sure I'm going! LOL

FoxnEagle · Answer

As I understand it and have been taught, sex is marrying your partner and is what is recognized by God. What we call marriage is more or less a social construct that is the outward declaration to the world that you are going to be with this person.

So it is frowned upon by society and not good practice, but I do not believe it to be a sin. The sin occurs when you don't get "married," and then go to your next partner, and the one after that, etc. You are still married to your first lover and now you're sleeping around.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It's not something you can't repent of, is it? You can grow to love doing almost anything wrong. But you can also turn from it, right? But then, the reason for turning from it matters too. Is it because He moved you to, or are you trying to bribe your way into Hellfire Insurance? Or is there some other, more self-serving reason?

Now, if your attitude about it having happened is: "It's my 'right'!" (no it isn't), or vowing to do it again just to get under someone else's skin? That's a lot more damning than the act itself. Don't just look at what you're doing; but why you want to do it.

Electric_Dreams · Answer

No. People who have premarital sex have premarital sex. That's what happens to them... or more appropriately what they do. They have premarital sex.. that's it.. nothing else happens, except maybe a baby or an STD or.. awkwardness or accidental inconvenient love which causes people to react irrationally. And yeah I guess one of those things could be hell. The STD, IF it's AIDS. Because if you get AIDS then that's hell at the end. So those people who have pre-marital sex do indeed go to hell; the ones who get AIDS.

chris0977 · Answer

My body will be in the ground, no nerve endings, or brain to react to fire, which somehow physically exists outside physical reality, so I'm not concerned as suffering, in the context of "hell" presented in the bible won't affect a spirit, only body, yet I meet very few who analyze, think, reflect, far more only will try to impose belief, often in ignorance, and blind acceptance, on another.

To answer your question, I have no direct access to knowledge, or experience, to know even what hell is, how to recognize it, or if I'm going, so witout sufficient evidence, I can't say I will go to hell for premarital sex.

NamerOfStars · Answer

I sure hope not. On the other hand, if God's that much of jackass, maybe we're better off without Him.

I think I'd be okay with it being the punishment for premarital sex after marriage, though; messing about with the timestream can cause a *lot* of trouble.

TheReaILifeGrumpyCat · Answer

I sure hope not.. Don't you think he'd care more about us then that.. To let that happen.. I don't think he would allow that personally. Of course i do realize that could be completely false and we all could be literally burning in hell and getting tortured forever.. I don't think he'd make it that easy tho and cares about us and loves us.

reptocarl2 · Answer

It was a mistranslation I think on purpose by the Catholics. The translated word that was on the original scroll was pornei. Properly translated it means sexual deviancy not fornication as it says in Bibles. Sexual deviancy was already spelled out in the Old Testament. It is pedophelia, homosexual, beastiality, adultery etc. heterosexual sex between two unmarried consenting adults is not a sin. It was everywhere in the OT, it isn’t a Ten Commandment and Jesus never said anything about it. It amazes me the Catholics will convince you you’ll burn in hell but think nothing of molesting altar boys

slatyb · Answer

No one knows. It's all just words written by people. I don't believe hell or heaven are real. Life is much simpler if you let go of this and just try to live ethically. Have sex if you want to, be honest with your partners, take the necessary precautions and enjoy it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes according to the three Abrahamic religions. You will go to hell for having sex before marriage if God doesn’t forgive you. You have to repent from your sins and make sure you don’t do them again but if you die a sinner without repenting sincerely you’ll be doomed to eternal damnation.

It’s all pretty sadistic. Lots of good people died who were of different religions but if they didn’t believe in this God they would apparently go to hell. What kind of horrible person does that? Apparently God is meant to love us more than our mother. What mother has the heart to pour hot lava into the ears of her child for anything at all? It doesn’t make sense to me. I think only morons can believe this is okay. This is where religious people can’t see morally right from wrong and common sense because they suffer from cognitive dissonance.

HawkPerception · Answer

Hell is a human made concept. Marriage is a human made concept. Morality is based on the time period. Use your own rationality and break free from the constraints of ancient scriptures.

Do you really think that if there was a God, they/it/etc would judge you for acting on your biological disposition as all other animals do?

If so, more than half of western society is going to hell.

AnjLikesDogs · Answer

Honey, you have as much pre-marital sex as you want. there's nothing wrong with it. If it's safe and consensual then I would not be worried. God will look at you and your partner and go "Well look at that. They are enjoying themselves" and not care. I dont thing God would care.

Fatherhere901 · Answer

You won't go to hell for having premarital sex.

Yes, people will look down on you and family members may look differently at you. Having premarital sex is common among a lot of people, especially younger generations. But truth be known, if you can have a relationship that can go the first three months without sex, then you know you have a relationship strong enough to fall back on after the sex dries up

btbc92 · Answer

From what o have heard of those who went down and saw, yes. Amongst other too when they never repented. Even Christians, but it is said they receive harsher punishment be ause they knew and didn't repent or lead others astray. It's not a joke people. Fornicators in the word of God clearly says as even those who commit adultery, lying, etc isn't welcome in the kingdom. It is literally right there. But it may not be the only sin that will get one to hell.

MrPeterMan · Answer

Absolutely not. Even though it isn't expressly forbidden in the Bible, that isn't the reason why either.

For those that do follow the Bible's teachings, the most importants event and message is the forgiveness of sins. It is the realisation that everybody makes mistakes and that all was forgiven when Jesus died on the cross. God's love is described as unchanging and unconditional.

Ask yourself, would a Father that has forgiven every mistake you've made, and loves you unconditionally ever want to eternally punish you?

I don't think so.

(I also think that it's important to remember that there were some very bad people in control of the churches and the interpretation of the Bible throughout history, so there are some messed up interpretations designed purely to oppress and control people.)

Anonymous · Answer

The question is "what makes a marriage". Sex outside of marriage is always wrong as this is adultery, but sin can be forgiven if you repent. In the Bible Adam and Eve never had an official wedding, but were bonded together making one flesh. People often equate marriage with a wedding or legal paper, but without these things and society people have been married. Marriage is before God and is a covenant. Sex signifies a marriage, but without a commitment then you have fornication. Sex with a lifetime commitment is marriage, outside it is adultery. Weddings are a celebration of that commitment and legal documents record that commitment, but without a covenant to stay together you aren't married.

Anonymous · Answer

I person of science, I know that evaluation and the big bang theory is probably true. I think the whole concept of God is weird in general, as someone who is still receiving their education I can say that I don't know a lot but I do know that you get interested in sex as a teenager. So theirs no surprise that teenagers want to have sex before marriage, it's natural! So no I (personally) don't think if hevan and hell is real (probably not) you would go to hell for having sex before marriage. Because what kind of "god" what say "hey I'm going to send you to hell for doing something normal and natural."

pushkar611 · Answer

There is no proof of exeistence of heaven and hell... So do not worry about going to a place after your demise which doesn't exist... At least that's what we know of... If the guy and the girl are of legal age and the act is happening with consent of both... Then they must not think about what would happen after they die...

Ellie-V · Answer

If your higher power says yes, then yes.
But for me... my higher power doesn’t give a shit if it’s not disturbing my peace.
So if “hell” is what you are afraid of you can either adjust what belief set you live in day to day or adjust your behavior.
Your choice ☺️ Hope whatever conclusion you come to makes you happy!

AndyOh · Answer

NO
If that were the case, Heaven is going to be a pretty lonely place except for the few die-hard believers that save themselves till marriage.

Though the Bible does reference sex a bit, I don't believe it says any hard or fast rule that you should wait till you are married... though I may be wrong on that one.

It is what is in your heart about God.

sejla · Answer

No of course not. Our bodies are made for sex. It's best to wait until one is in adulthood to handle the responsibility (my opinion) and one should use ample protection if one doesn't want to get pregnant. Now with that said in some societies it is dangerous to have sex before marriage because of the strict religious governments.

It's a personal choice whether one waits or not.

Renato_22 · Answer

Not really. I mean... Is not fully certain that somewhere like heaven or hell exist but comsider this. Time before Catholic religion or others like it started to prevail, people had premarital sex and i don't think they had gone to hell.
On the other hand... It can be argued that Premarital sex is forbidden was made to control women before engagement, mainly because virginity was considered really important. Nowadays it depends on people thoughts, far from going to hell, or not.

Futron · Answer

I can't seem to find that part of the Bible.
Huh, perhaps I missed it in my bible study courses?
What is in the Bible is forgiveness and love to all who accept it. If you didn't read it in the Bible, don't trust it- there are so many lies "backed up by scripture"

BulletproofNY · Answer

Yes, you’ll burn in hell for sure if you do it, but wait, there’s more, even if you have dirty thoughts you’ll go to hell!! If you touch yourself... you’ll also end up there!!
Sooooo you better behave missy!
You don’t want to end up down there, and by down there I don’t mean giving head you naughty girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, no good deed takes you to heaven only your believe in Christ but that still means you need to repent of since. Wich means we need to try to stay on the road without sin but we are human and are bound to fail so thats why Christ died for us on the cross so all we need to do is believe He loves us and he saved us and try to live as He did and grow in our faith in him.

The reason for after marital sex is it is faithful to god, its wise weather you like it or not. And when you have sex your souls become one and your burdens is together and you are then spiritually maried... if you agreed to the sex.

Conclusion. It will not damn you to hell if you repent but you can't play God woth that card , he judges your heart not your deeds

I-C3_ME · Answer

I believe u go to hell by your own design, so when u feel guilty about something in your core then u go there.

So ask yourself if u feel guilty, if not then your good otherwise try to find out why u feel guilty and work on.

remember no-ones perfect and u can't change the past but u can change yourself, only the energy has to come from within yourself

_SOARER · Answer

Not if they repent for their sins.
I had sex out of wedlock, a lot, and i have recently. Its wrong 100% But I was tempted in to sin by sexy and cute girls!

Thankfully! I can repent, and I can abstain!

ThisAndThat · Answer

Yes according to the Bible it's a sin. I'm guilty of it myself which I'm not proud of. But God knew we aren't perfect. That's why he sent his only son here to die on the cross for our sins which you have to ask for forgiveness for that to happen. God forgives as long as you ask for his forgiveness.

RationalMale · Answer

As far as the King James and NIV Bibles, i have researched a lot and found nothing actually calling it a sin.

Sleeping with a married woman or betrothed woman is a grave crime, and if you sleep with a virgin you must offer to marry her if her father approves.

However i could not find anything flat out saying it's a sin or forbidden for a single man and woman to sleep together. Only in specific scenarios like related by marriage or such.

Physics-Man · Answer

Within the Catholic Church, based on my understanding, it is sinful to do so. That's why you have to Repent through the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Ultimately, God decides who goes to Heaven, Hell, or Purgatory; He is the ultimate judge. I suggest you go to Confession at least a few times a month (based on my understanding).

Liam_Hayden · Answer

In historic Christian thought, people get cast into outer darkness for not trusting in Jesus. His sacrifice is seen as being of infinite value, thus trusting him covers all transgression and rejecting his sacrifice is seen as being an infinite affront.

abbecker · Answer

Not if you truly repent to God. Lowkey I don't do premarital sex but we do a lot of things which are indecent too lol so hopefully God will forgive us because honestly no one is perfect and fall for temptations.

Just_a_human · Answer

Considering that everyone that will answer this question is still alive, they don't definitively know.

German_Otaku · Answer

Noo sex is just a part of our life. It's normal to have sex and I thing it's a imported part of a relationship. Sex isn't just that horny feeling. Your so close to your partner und in that moment you will understand each other better. It's just that great feeling to trust your partner completely

1stranger · Answer

If this is true, hell might be a very crowded place.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Only if you believe in it, as an atheist i don't believe in hell at all 🤷‍♂️

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Thaly · Answer

Why it could determinate that? I mean if you kill people you'll go to the hell but I think it's not the same with having sex without marriage
I think if you go to the hell it's because yo do a lot of bad things

RemoErdosain · Answer

The only way to find out, if there is a way, would be to die. Maybe communicating with ghosts, if they exist. I think the Catholic Church considers it a sin, but not something you'd just go to hell for

Ciarle · Answer

how sick is your religion that tells you that in order to have sex with somebody who you're in love with (or not even, but who cares, someone you want), you need a paper that says you are married.

sdtabot · Answer

No one alive has been in what you call Hell. No one can give you a guaranteed answer. No one really knows if He'll exists other than what their faith claims.

jmzero · Answer

Call Kratos or sam and dean as only someone who's died and came back to life can give you an answer. In the meantime ill just follow my summarized version of all religious texts.

Dont be a unnecessary asshole... unless its for god.

JosyJosy · Answer

We can say yes... we can say no. But none of us actually went there yet. So no clue don't let it get to you

wankiam · Answer

as an athiest i would say no but its up to you what you believe

Anonymous · Answer

It is only up to God to decide who goes to hell and who doesn't.

Now if you do believe in God and his rules, take guidance from the book of your own faith and then make your own conclusion. Most agree on this one commandment that sex outside marriage is indeed one of the big sins.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Of course not! You go to Alabama which is worse. Don't take my advice though because I haven't been to hell but I have been many times to Alabama. Personally I think you will be fine.

SphynxUK · Answer

I don’t think so. I don’t believe in that stuff. I think it’s great to wait, but I do think people should be able to see if they are compatible before marriage.

CubsterShura · Answer

You definitely get sinned. But whether or not you go to hell depends on everything you did in your life not just committing fornication, so it is up to God whether or not you go to hell.

1truekhaleesi · Answer

It's not premarital sex if you don't get married. Check mate.

Massageman · Answer

People will be separated from God for eternity (ie, hell) if they don't accept Jesus as their personal Savior as the substitutionary atonement for their sins.

helva · Answer

Sure, and there will be a lot of people. Wear your masks please.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Sleeping around is sinful before God. God commands sexual relations be between husband and wife in His word the Bible. Sexual activity outside of marriage is disobedience to God and His word and those who rebel against God's commandments go to hell.

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't except His forgiveness for this; then yes.

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