I want to become a nun because I feel like no guy will ever want me?

[Anonymous]

Let me just say I love God. God is important in my life. I am not trying to be disrespectful to God at all. I'm just lost and not sure what to do.

A few years ago I was dating this guy. I wasn't religious at all back then. My mom and older brother motivated me to do stuff with my ex. Not full blown sex but just oral hands.

So I'm not a virgin anymore. Now years later I found God and I am extremely deeply regretful for what I have done. I want to wait until marriage but how can I find a guy who'll wait/respect me if I am not a virgin. I feel like I don't deserve anything and I'm am just a slut so I should just become a nun.

[BCRanger10]

Okay. A lot to cover here.

First of all, let's define "virginity". According to the Modern Catholic Dictionary, "virginity" is defined thusly (I will highlight the important part)..."The state of bodily integrity in either sex. This integrity may be physical or moral, and either factual or intentional. Physical virginity is sometimes defined as the absence of any sinfully experienced lustful sensation. But, strictly speaking, a person is physically a virgin unless he or she has had sexual intercourse with a person of the opposite sex. Moral virginity means the absence of any willful consent to venereal pleasure; again, strictly speaking, with a person of the opposite sex. Virginity is factual when, de facto, a person has not in the past sought or indulged in sexual pleasure; it is intentional when a person intends never to experience such pleasure, according to the previous distinctions made."

So basically, while you may have engaged in sexual acts before, unless you have had actual penetrative sexual intercourse with a man, you are still a virgin.

Second, even with these in your history, any man or woman who seeks Christian marriage ought to consider the times in which we live. Many people have committed or actively struggle with sexual sin (even if active in their faith).

Even so, all the faithful ought to consider that some of the greatest Saints in the Church have been some of the greatest sinners. There have been murderers, adulterers, liars, extortionists... you name it, there's probably at least one who has done it. There's one, Blessed Bartolo Longo, who was a former Satanic high priest, for crying out loud! As far as sexual sins, you should read up on Saints Augustine and Ignatius of Loyola. I think Theresa of Avila had sexual sins in her past too, but I could be wrong.

The point is people sin, but they also have radical conversions. Don't sell yourself short.

Third, you must be a Catholic if you are to become a nun. If you are already Catholic and are feeling something of a call, you ought to consult a spiritual director.

I know I gave you a lot there, but I hope it helps.

God bless you 🙏

[Kreneman]

For starters, your not a slut, and if you repent to the lord he will forgive you because he is a loving, forgiving God, and your one of his children. Always pray and Fast by developing a relationship with the Lord; and he will bless you. Be specific and ask him but remember he knows what's best for you, and he know's your heart the same way he already have a Calling for you. Learn Wisdom and apply it when your in search of a husband but first analyze yourself and also reached out to your local shepherd for guidance. Be blessed!

[fonduegirl]

Why would your family motivate you to hanky panky stuff in the first place? Aren't they supposed to be protective of you?

Secondly, nobody is forcing you to do stuff. Attraction is no sin. With that amount of confidence, indeed no real life guy would like you.

[SecretsofKB]

If that's what you consider being a slut, then I'm really not sure what I am.

I think becoming a nun is more than just a last resort like you're making it seem. I think it's a life you need to be prepared for and will not regret at all.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Oral does take away your virginity, if you didn't have penetration sex then you are still a virgin and I feel like you are going to hard on yourself, pray to God to put someone right for you and he will, you are giving up too early

[TheMajesticKing777]

doesn't* mybad the auto incorrect kicked in

[one1wild00]

A you are still a virgin in my book as you haven't been penetrated in your kitty yet and same reason you are NOT a slut. give the guys a chance there are a few good ones out there and many more that wouldn't care even if you had been "Popped"

[jshm2]

... so you can be wanted by priests and other nuns instead?

You're confused as to why one would want to go into nunnery

[AviatorTom]

You should become a nun if God has called you to that, not to hide and get away from men.

[Dargil]

If you did not have PIV or PIA intercourse, you remain a virgin.

[driven159]

there is someone for everybody so don't lose hope but if you feel your calling is for God then do it but think hard and long about it

[James899]

Why are you thinking like that!

[TheFlak38]

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