i am currently 20 years and recently almost every single day for sehri/suhoor I have been getting my hair pulled, punched, kicked and hit so I can clean up after the rest of my siblings. Now I understand that I must clean up after myself and I do but when my dad told me to clean my siblings mess (who are only 2–3 years younger than me so they’re completely capable of picking up after themselves) I asked him why and he became upset with me and grabbed me by the head and shoved my face in the sink. Sometimes he would even throw chairs at me and today a table was thrown at me. I have multiple bruises on me because of this. I told him that Allah is not happy with him because of what he is doing and he grabbed the hammer but luckily I locked the door on him and he eventually walked away leaving me alone. At the same time, I also feel like I have not been obeying him and disappointing Allah because you need to obey your parents and I’ve said some bad things about them behind their back, such as “inshaAllah they die” “I hate them”. Also, my mom is not doing a single thing about it except for agreeing with my dad. The most helpful thing she would do is to tell my dad “who cares about her anyways. She’s a lost cause”. And my dad would end up leaving me alone. I have faith in Islam and there has to be a way to escape this without going to hell for disobedience of my parents.
Is it allowed in Islam for a parent to hit their adult children for not obeying them?
