For religious girls, would you keep bugging a guy to come to your church iover and over again if you were attracted to him?

[Flowmaster3000]

For context refer to my last post, but when we were coworkers after she found out I was sort of into religion and went to church with my parents. She would constantly bug me about coming to her youth group for awhile, saying things such as “when are you going to come to my church “. Especially given that her church was in a different language. Went on for about a few weeks to a month I’d say before I finally went lol. When I went she sat next to me to help translate and would share a bible while going through the verses her hands/fingers would graze/ touch mine fairly often to the point where I got semi uncomfortable at times

Something potentially there

She’s just different and reading into it too much

[dynamicyandere]

That reminds me of the term “flirt to convert”.


I’d say there’s potentially something there with the unnecessary touching.


Often times, it’s a 2-birds-with-1-stone situation where a religious guy or girl is attracted to a non-religious guy or girl, and wants to date them anyway, hoping that they’ll subscribe to the same beliefs in time.


I’ve seen people do it, and I’ve done it myself.


It’s not the best way to convert someone because if they like you, they will likely go along.


But, if your relationship doesn’t work out, it’s unlikely for them to stay subscribed to your beliefs, if it wasn’t a decision they truly made for themselves.


Also, you mentioned that the church she invited you to is in a language you don’t speak.


If she was prioritizing your faith above all else, she’d probably encourage you to attend a church that does speak your language, so you can understand the message and grow in your faith.


So, I think it’s likely that this is an excuse to have you near her.


Again, the 2-birds-with-1-stone thing.

[Flowmaster3000]

Yeah that’s the thing I noticed whenever in school or situation where a girl was reading/tracking something along there was grazing at all and if by chance they would say sorry or my bad. I didn’t notice if she did this with everyone as I tried not to be weird and be super focused but pretty interesting she would be this open/clumsy with everyone especially the opposite gender

Yeah I kind of believe in the good girl/ bad boy dynamics, I respect the fact that she knew I was off sinning and still going to her church but never really judged or condemned me she was just playfully give me a hard time about it.

Yeah I thought it was interesting how she was so adamant on me going despite not speaking the language considering the adjustment she would have to make to translate for me which isn’t a big task but I respect her dedication for it.

All in all I agree with your 2 birds 1 stone idea just thought I was overthinking or wishful thinking it

[strateguy632]

first they see it as inviting you and in this context she wants to go and also to spend time with you without sacrificing either one. girls are like that about other stuff too, "come with me to the film i like so i can see my film and also be with you."

[Flowmaster3000]

Right, I had an underlying feeling about this exact same thing. I’m just unsure because she also gave some strong “friend zone “ vibes but also a lot more signs she possibly likes me more than a friend

[Agape93]

Nope, he'd likely never be invited to attend

[Flowmaster3000]

What do you mean? Like if you are attracted to a guy you wouldn’t even invite him?

[Agape93]

We are a closed group and he'd be an outsider, so no, he wouldn't even get an invite unless he expressed genuine interest without prompting.