Christians, is my heart being deceitful in this situation?

[clovertheminotaur]

Recently, I've been thinking about this boy in church that's absolutely kind and handsome. I forgot to get his number, but I really can't wait until Sunday when I see him again.

However, I am very worried I could be obsessing over someone else's boyfriend or that he would be weirded out by the fact I think he's adorable. God says our hearts are evil because they have been tainted by sin, and I can't help but feel guilty for this crush. Is it wrong to be thinking about him so much and getting excited? I would really hate to have such feelings for a taken man- and if these feelings are wrong, how can I settle myself down and act normal again?

Updates

3 mo

So update: I got his number, but we barely talk at all and I think I just want to be friends with him. He seems nice and handsome, but I definitely think just diving right in would be... Foolish. Plus, he's busy with college, so I doubt he'll be open to anything as of now anyways. Thank you for your advice, it helped me build my confidence, and I think that's what mattered most :))

[ChicoFromThe305]

Don't forget got didn't make us all knowing, you can't just leave that out like it doesn't effect choices and yes our hearts were tainted by sin but it doesn't mean we can't feel emotions, god gave us emotions and we are entitled to feeling them, now of course making choices on them is something else but if your intentions are pure then it would only be bad if you were certain he is taken and unavailable, god also says to not rely on our own understandings, I'd say pray on it and ask god for guidance, personally I don't see anything wrong with maybe showing interest and have him tell you or you can ask him if he is single.

[ChicoFromThe305]

God*

[clovertheminotaur]

My main worry is that he'll feel weird or disgusted that I feel this way (the guy, not God). Because I find him handsome, but I am VERY unsure if I look good enough.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If he's handsome like you say then I'm pretty sure he has some form of adjustment to interest from women, no matter their appearance don't you think? How you know these intrusive thoughts aren't trying to stop you from something good?

[Drew-1990]

We all struggle with our own things. It is not necessary wrong to have the temptation towards this guy. If you act out on them that is the problem, that is when you sin. I struggle with the temptation of lust myself, I almost went to a bad place with it too but stopped myself and blocked the girl I started down that road with. To get past it you need to pray to start. Remember how it is wrong and look to anything that will encourage you to do the right thing.

Now if you don't know if he is single or taken then you are doing absolutely nothing wrong at all. If he is taken, you didn't know and that's nothing to be ashamed of because you didn't know. Find out and if he is try to forget him but don't be upset with yourself.

[Paris13]

Go Slow At First Until You Actually Find Out His Situation. Then Be A Friend to Start. Welcome to Gag and Best of luck. xxoo

[Paris13]

Bless You, Gag. xxoo

[lightbulb27]

normal at your age that hearts are so afire.

Bible also says to be anxious for nothing, but in all things prayer and petition... etc.. read the verse.

So put it back onto lord, await your time on Sunday. Even if he is dating someone, doesn't mean he dates them forever, at your age people don't know themselves. Maybe it's your time maybe not... and it's ok. Maybe he isn't so nice. You are over doing this in yoru head... normal, so let it go a bit so you are your best self when you meet.

[Phoenix98]

Well if you worry about possibly liking another person's partner even though you don't know if that person is even in a relationship then you'll be single forever.

You said so yourself you don't know if he's single or not so until you actually know just work off the assumption that he is single and if it turns out he is in a relationship then move on and find someone else.

[nawtee_me]

It is not just that God knows our hearts but the Devil also knows how to tempt us to possibly sin. Pray and ask God to take away any lust or other sin that might be there and to show you His way to deal with the situation. You don’t know but God may have put you two together for a reason. God has a plan for you, the key is to be a willing part of it. What ever it is….

[clovertheminotaur]

I've been deceived before, which is why I'm very cautious. While I don't think this guy will be "the one" or anything, maybe just having the confidence to ask for his number proves to God that I might be ready. I'm ready to heal and find someone I can spend my days with.

[nawtee_me]

I wish you the best, if you need someone to pray with, it would be an honor….

[Twalli]

You can't control who you're attracted to. Besides he might not be taken, and if you try to suppress your feelings towards him and don't take the initiative, you'll never have the chance to be with him.

[SoJust]

Let everything flow as it is, remember that there is no reunion in true love

[strateguy632]

seems Natural just ask.

[gorydetails]

you don’t know he’s taken. So ask.

[OtterMan68]

you're normal