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No I’m not a sociopath. In fact I am sometimes too empathetic for people.

Anyway I have known a few in my life (even regrettably dated one in the past). I can’t change their nature but just accept the sad fact they can never be trusted. Sociopaths will only value people to the point they get value out of them. This can be sneaky because their “value” can mean different things. It can be looks, money, sex , social optics, etc. Even the ones who are heavily involved in “social justice” initiatives just want the social kudos that come along with it vs. really caring about the people they are supposedly fighting for. Sociopaths see life as a chessboard.

They get paranoid about being “found out” because when they know when that happens people don’t trust them. They need to be trusted to gain their own ends. So they are good at acting and behaving seemingly genuine. But when no one’s looking they will be the last to inconvenience themselves to help someone else who can’t repay them. That’s the acid test of identifying a sociopath; how do they treat people who can’t benefit them.

With all that said a part of me can’t help a bit envy for these people at times. They seem to always get what they want. Sociopathic men usually do (at least initially) very well romantically with women compared to more empathetic men.

It’s because they come off as confident and non chalant because they aren’t worried about hurting a woman’s feelings. They understand the concept of challenge and good at being manipulative. But they put on acts like they care to convince them otherwise. And of course they become the nasty heart break stories women complain about. Then some of these hurt women generalize ALL men for these asshole’s bs.

But on the flip side it must be a heavy burden knowing that you can never really be trusted and must always cover your ass.

There is big difference between arguing and debating. Arguing involves emotion and it’s usually predominately anger. Arguing is often about BEING right vs WHAT is right. While it’s possible argue to figure out what is right but requires incredible self control.

Debating is very different. Debating rarely has any negative emotions. It might be something you feel passionate about it. You might be angry at someone or something but you are not typically angry at the person you are debating. You often welcome the opposing viewpoint because you want to challenge your own. The opposing viewpoint forces you to think harder. Challenges you.

If you “win” the debate and get the other person to agree with you then you don’t feel any type of “victory” over that person. They might of reinforced your belief in the end but that doesn’t create any source of pride of “winning a fight”’. Also if you “lose” a debate it doesn’t make you feel ashamed. You often feel more enlightened and grateful for the person to engaged with you.

Anyway if the hundreds of logical debates I’ve gotten in with women I’ve only had at most 1 out of 50 change my mind with factual reasoning. I have won a few debates with women. But a larger percentage often give up because they are too egotistical to admit they were proven wrong. Or worse they get angry and start throwing out insults (a minority of idiot men to this too). At that point I DEFINITELY know I‘m right.