My friend and I get along so well everyone knows we have a deep bond and we laugh a lot at work. We’re both bisexual girls. A few months ago at my grad party I got really drunk and I kissed her. We made out 4x It was amazing but we both downplayed it after and she said it was platonic because she knew I didn’t mean anything by it and plus we work together. I also kissed my ex boyfriend. I recently reconnected with my ex for the first time since that night and he said how my friend and him actually got along and they talked about how they used to smoke weed and she offered him her cbd pen. She got tipsy but remembered everything that happened and I was the most drunk. My ex told me that that night after all the kissing, my friend threw darts at my ex boyfriend. He said he was confused by it and she only threw them at him. I told my friend today about her throwing darts about my ex boyfriend and at first she laughed and said she throws darts at her boyfriend too and it’s no big deal. Then she changed her story and said she thought she was on a “man hating” binge. Then she said maybe she wanted someone to play darts with her. She says my ex is the homie but she also says it’s clear that he’s still very much in love with me. I told her my ex said that he drove past my house and she was like “why did he drive past your house? Now I’m getting mad” but she said it kind of jokingly. And she tells me to be mean to him.
I told her that after drinks with my ex I was kind of dizzy/drunk afterwards, I joked how I had to go to target and was trying to get there safely and we both laughed and she was like “you could’ve called me to pick you up and take you to target”. Which I thought was odd. She lives on the other side of town… and she could’ve suggested me calling my parents
Why did she change her story about the darts three times? Also she has a boyfriend now so I don’t get it. Also side note a popular psychic said she has feelings for me and not her boyfriend but is hesitant.
I told her that after drinks with my ex I was kind of dizzy/drunk afterwards, I joked how I had to go to target and was trying to get there safely and we both laughed and she was like “you could’ve called me to pick you up and take you to target”. Which I thought was odd. She lives on the other side of town… and she could’ve suggested me calling my parents
Why did she change her story about the darts three times? Also she has a boyfriend now so I don’t get it. Also side note a popular psychic said she has feelings for me and not her boyfriend but is hesitant.
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Omg girl, this is such a mess but it totally sounds like your friend has feelings for you! Here's why I think so:
- Making out multiple times doesn't seem very "platonic" to me
- Getting weird and jealous about your ex shows she's into you
- Offering to come pick you up late at night is above and beyond for a friend
- Changing her story about the darts thing seems kinda sus
- What that psychic said definitely aligns with her behavior
It's clear there's tension between you two. As for getting her to open up, here's what I'd try:
- Have a heart to heart convo, maybe while drinking wine to loosen up
- Reminisce about that night you kissed and see how she reacts
- Flirt a little to test the waters and gauge her level of comfort
- Tell her you have feelings too and want to try being more than friends
- Reassure her it's okay to like both guys and girls
- She might just need some encouragement to be truthful with herself
Go for it boo! You've got this. Let me know how it goes - I'm rooting for you two crazy kids 😘
Thank you!
No problem, I hope it helps! Let me know how it goes with her. Rootin for ya!
Psychics just tell you what they can read you would most like or surpise you to hear. It's a sham and entertainment. Read up about 'cold reading' etc.
Anyway, what I read here is that you have feelings for your friend, but your projecting those feelings onto her and wanting her to recipricate so trying to hedge this as her hiding her real feelings for you.
She may or may not have feelings for you, but right now your seriously projecting.
Your first step is to admit your OWN feelings for her and work out why it matters to you she confesses her feelings (as you see them). I would rashly assume you want a validation that she's feeling the same as you. Therefore, what you need to do here is work out if your jealous of her boyfriend or wanting to start a commited exclusive relationship with your bi friend; If you are wanting to they you need to tell her how you feel and accept however she chooses to respond; If your just feeling like maybe 'im honest about my feelings why can't she be about hers' realise this is self absorbed thinking (if that is the case).
Anyway, you need to work you out and stop second guessing your friend and start trusting her more to decide for herself.
Hope things work out as you might like.