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My cousin and I had a falling out after she did something I asked her not to do revolving a guy…She is transgender and at first I told her to look on his page then I said never mind bc I realized I may not be able to trust her. I felt upset because I was not over the guy and it took me a year to really stop hurting….. I was telling my mother about it and she unknowingly admitted to me that she did snoop and she tried to see if he would reach out to her…. which hurt me soooo deeply. Instead of addressing the issue or supporting me, my mother brushed it off and continued to act as if nothing was wrong between us. This made me feel betrayed and dismissed, and I’m finding it hard to move past it.

she said things like “she wouldn’t do that “ “take responsibility for involving her” “ you’ve done things too” ( I would never try to talk to someone else’s person)…

I feel extremely hurt..

My cousin is transgender, and I suspect the guy I was talking to had a sexual interest in transgender women based on things I noticed about him. I opened up to her about how his actions, along with other things he did, left me feeling hurt, unattractive, and not good enough. He ghosted me, and on top of that, I realized he had other sexual preferences that I wasn’t aware of.

I shared my feelings with my cousin, but I still have conflicting emotions about it all. At one point, I even asked her to look at his social media to see if I had missed anything, but then I told her to forget it because I didn’t fully trust her. I worried she might talk about me behind my back, and the thought of that triggered a breakdown because, despite everything, I still have strong feelings for him and just want to feel like I’m enough for him.

However, she went ahead and looked anyway. I found out through my mother that my cousin had not only checked his social media but even attempted to reach out to him. When I confronted my mother, she dismissed my feelings and defended my cousin, saying she would never do anything like that—despite her actions proving otherwise. My mother then tried to gaslight me, saying things like, “I’m sure you’ve done things too,” which was incredibly hurtful.

It broke my heart because I would never betray a family member like that or try to interfere with someone they had been involved with.