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I seen messages of him complimenting a girl he was with before me. So I lied and said I saw messages (they didn’t exist) saying you hated mines and preferred hers and he said what I’ve seen is out of context and him being funny. We had a bad break up and he hated me.

He said to me he preferred me and all his friends knew that. When we were together he would always want sex off me and was so annoyed I’d reject him a lot. He said he never stopped looking at me and if he wanted to this ex still really wanted him he could have had her if he wanted to. Which is true.

But he would rarely compliment me and if it was it was always about my bum. He went on and on about how big it was etc. but to get more than that I had to ask.

He said I knew how hot I was so he didn’t want to compliment me and everyone knows I’m hot and my ego is huge. I get a lot of attention and people messaging me and he was jealous. He didn’t get attention and I did. He said I was so big headed with this (I wasn’t) so he didn’t like complimenting me

He said look at his instagram following and the models he follows they all have my body type which is true they do. And he told me he watched porn with girls with my exact body type and I looked so much like them. Which is also true.

She had the opposite body to me I’m smaller boobs a small c cup and big bum and she had bigger boobs and a really small bum. He’s always said his type is big bums and she doesn’t care about boobs. But “bigged hers up” and found them perfect.

Did he hate my body and prefer her?

Hi Ladies!

Ok, so true story, a good guy friend of mine once sat at our favorite bar and "outlined" all my attributes for me in a way that was just matter-of-fact, like a lawyer making a case for his client. In closing, he said, "... I've known all this since the first time I saw you. You just light up the room as soon as you walk into it, without doing anything at all. Any guy who can't see and feel that is nuts." He held up his Macallan and toasted me, which made me laugh and nudge him. It was very sweet and meant to get me out of the funk of the nasty things people were saying about me being a divorcee, etc.

Today's the anniv of his passing (RIP 2020, COVID), so he's on my mind. I didn't reject his incredible compliment, but I didn't really accept them and let them sink in till this month. Since this heart to heart five years ago I've had lots of compliments about different things and I always automatically deflect them as something kind the other person is saying. I don't take it to heart. Sometimes if a person goes on and on about something I did I'll blush, quietly thank the person and outline THEIR qualities, indicating that if I'm good at something it's because I have the benefit of working with THEM (which I also truly believe... no one really stands alone 100%). This morning I receive a compliment and I let it sink in a little... to my heart... and it was a great feeling. I think my friend sent this person my way with a kind word because I was feeling glum and remembering all our chats before he passed on...

Anyway, I got to thinking... how many of us don't know how to accept a compliment?

Take a moment to think about the nicest thing anyone's ever said to you. How did you respond? Did you ACCEPT the compliment or DEFLECT it?