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I dated the most stunning girl from my small religion/culture. She was phenomenally beautiful in my eyes. She had v rare features like bright green eyes and fair skin and very natural. Never seen a girl like her - how does she even exist? We had a really good connection/chemistry too!

The reasons she gave me for breaking up with me were that I was tight with money. I did gift her small things, pay for the first 5 dates, and then we did 50/50.

I wish I gave her the full princess treatment. I wish honestly 😭 I am that way inclined to provide but my sisters mainly told me not too. I wish I could go back as she told me she felt protected when I would pay for her things. She wanted the soft life. She loved the whole ‘daddy’ thing.

The part that confused me was she didn’t want to give up work when she gets married.

I was good to her, but I should’ve just worshipped her so I know I tried my best even if she left so I would have no regrets.

My first girlfriend and I should have given it my all. I still tried my best but look back at small mistakes I made. My life is over 😭

To me, I call that "underemployment." Sure, a job is a job, but if you have specialized training and/or a degree in something and most of the added jobs out there are assembly line workers and menial labor roles, I don't see those as being job market successes.

Imagine being a seasoned software engineer or an attorney to then have to go work on a hot factory floor behind an assembly line or nailing frames together on a building. Let's say $18/hr vs $55/hr... that's a huge difference.

Yes, those jobs are more suitable for some, and there isn't anything necessarily bad about them, but for those who put the extra time and efforts to educate themselves further, that's a huge slap in the face.

Especially if they refuse to provide compensation or refunds or even further funds on top of refunds for trivial or inconsequential complaints.

Hell - how has capitalism lasted this long without almost every business going under from customers, that cohort of customers who 'know the system and know how to work it' called 'the system of the customer is always right'

Spicy zing one liner.