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My ex and I were in a 4.5 year relationship before he ended it about 7 months ago now. His mom and I, while I was with her son, didn't have the best relationship due to external factors like my family's stance on the union and other things since it was an interracial relationship. After the split, she became kind towards me and helped me emotionally/mentally as a mother figure, basically treating me drastically differently than before. She even told me the day after the breakup that she believes her son needs to mature during this time to be ready for marriage with me since we were planning on getting engaged this upcoming year. That obviously should've been kept to herself since I was in a vulnerable place and assumed that he told her that, which led to delayed healing.

Since then, I have met up with my ex's parents a couple of times just because they wanted to see me, and they have treated me with tremendous respect and kindness. They invited me to their home to help paint furniture, and during that time, the mom kept referring to me as daughter-in-law even though my ex and I hadn't spoken to each other in months. We also talked about my healing during that time, and she supported my journey. Her son's birthday was in October, and she asked if I wished him a happy birthday. I said no since he told me that he wasn't comfortable with me communicating with him at the beginning of the breakup. My birthday was in December, and she didn't wish me a happy birthday, but today, she wished me a happy holiday season and asked if I was dating anyone. I didn't respond to her question and was taken aback by it since there was no reason for her to ask that. I have removed him and that whole family from my social medias, so maybe that's part of the reason why? Do you think my ex is asking her to find out on his behalf? Why wouldn't he just message me to find out?

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 yrs-engaged for 1 yr. I moved to his home state and into the home of him and his grandma. There’s no real drama except our relationship is done it seems

Today is his birthday (12/14) and he sends me this text.

His grandma was out of the house since she was in the hospital leaving us alone almost 6 days. For once he didn’t have to keep doing everything little thing she asks him to do and he had peace for once. But I noticed he was “bored” a lot. That alarmed me since he wasn’t taking advantage of the peace and freedom he had for once.

We are in our mid 20’s and he has never had the house alone in years! So it’s weird he wouldn’t enjoy it. But I’ve come to the conclusion that he likes taking care of her EVERY single need even if he has no energy to focus on himself let alone OUR RELATIONSHIP.

Don’t think I’m jealous & inconsiderate & don’t want him taking care of his grandma, that’s what I admired about him. I work all day so by the time I get home @ 6/7pm I only get 1-2 hrs of his time and in the mix of that she’s calling him to get something else.

it’s to the point where we haven’t had any dates but our weekends consist of running errands for her. I tell him I wants dates but that’s hasn’t happened.

I tell him we need quality he shuts down and gets upset as if I’m asking for too much. The topic of getting or saving up for our own home is now contingent on his grandma’s at home nurse capabilities on taking care of her. But 2 months earlier we agreed to start saving.

Is he breaking up with me?

3 years married and she has told him that she wants kids latter!

So why just ask that now or was it more of a teasing question?

He is worried and asked me my opinion which maked it a good question for here! 😂