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I ask because I know that the 1960s and early 1970s were pivotal times in the USA and Europe. I will even go as far as to say that Europe is even further away with gender roles than the USA in some ways, but when did this shift happen?

Each generation is clearly more and more equal than the previous... I ask because this is a very progressive time we have lived in over the years and so much has changed; even dating is so different from how it was in our parents generation. (Now everything is more 50/50; the woman pays her half on dates or they take turns every other time paying for each other; women ask men out now, etc., etc.)

Years ago, women were not allowed to work, not allowed to date or have sex before marriage (they were expected to be virgins on their wedding night; imagine marrying someone you are not even sexually compatible with; that must have been torture and felt like a trap), not allowed to vote, not allowed to wear denim jeans, not allowed to wear sneakers, not allowed to have short hair, and not allowed to do anything without her husband's permission first. Some women were not even allowed to have friends; it was so bad! Clearly, things have changed. In many homes, the mother is the only parent raising the kids and working, or she earns more than her husband. You very rarely see a housewife. There are a few reasons for this.

* Women were very unhappy about not being able to work, earn their own money, and have the freedom to use the money they earned.
* Many women felt they missed out on life and spent their adult lives in the house, only raising kids.
* It is simply too expensive for only one spouse to work now.

Imagine how bad things used to be for women. None of that happens today.

I know that in some countries, gender roles are still not as advanced, sadly.

But when did this really start to be noticeable?

Obviously you want the children to like you. Or get along with you. But are you including them in plans when going out? Taking them along with you, paying for them to spend time with you? Buying them gifts also?

My fiancé wants to us to co-parent her nice, and sign her life away to be godmother to her friend’s kids. Which means I’m responsible for those kids if she takes them in, which I really don’t want.

I never planned on having kids. Neither did she, which is why we started dating in the first place. We both agreed that kids aren’t for either of us to a point where she even had an abortion.

Also, she keeps trying to talk me into having a vasectomy and I keep telling her “no”. I was supportive of the abortion because I don’t wanna put in the work/money into raising kids.

This morning we had the discussion about being the god mother to her friend’s children and her nice. To be honest I don't know if I wanna be with her if I have to raise another man’s children.

I asked her “why would you have an abortion and still adopt?”. Her response was “because I don’t have to birth them. My niece is my flesh and blood who’s apart of me, so you must treat her like your own child”.

She’s so anti having kids but wants us to be involved with everyone’s kids. It’s really fuckin annoying!!!

Would I be an assholes for walking away from her?