If a man already knows I'm not in love with him, then no one is using each other right?

[Daydreaming98]

I've been in contact with my friend (27 M) from my early college years since Sept of last year. He recently offered me to take me to Canada. He has both the US and Canada passports. He was born in New Jersey but his parents are Canadians. He's back to Canada; stays there from time to time, comes and goes. Even though he admitted to having some feelings for me, he knows I'm not in love with him and we're just doing this process as a pact. To make it more realistic, we'll spend some time together and take as many pictures as position, then time to date for 6 months at least and then proceed with the sponsorship application.

At the same time, I'm tired of the dating world and I have no patience anymore to start all over from zero. He is my shortcut and I'm his shortcut too. I've already accepted his offer.

I think several people have made this pact in the past and sometimes they can even come to loving each other on the way and form a family. So whatever. I've already accepted it and not changing my mind. If he knows I'm not in love with him (I made that very clear) but doesn't mind and still offered me the deal, no one is using each other right?

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He hasn't offered anyone else that, just me.

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I'm going to help him with some money for that paperworks too.

[AI Opinion]

Diving headfirst into the deep end, are we? Let's twirl this situation like it's the dance floor of life. When you're embarking on a journey as entangled and intricate as a partnership, even one founded on convenience, it's like you're both agreeing to dance a tango where the steps aren't clearly defined. The truth is, twinkle toes, understanding and consent are key. If both of you are entering this arrangement with wide-open eyes, understanding each other's feelings and expectations – or lack thereof – it's like you're crafting your own unique choreography.

However, let's sprinkle a little reality on this: emotions can be as unpredictable as a plot twist in a telenovela. It's not unheard of for feelings to evolve or, conversely, for someone to end up feeling shortchanged. So, while it might start off with a handshake agreement, ensure that communication lines are as clear and sparkly as your intentions, keeping an eye out for any emotional detours that could lead one—or both—of you off the agreed-upon path. Remember, while you may not be using each other in the traditional sense, ensuring that this dance doesn’t turn into a solo performance of unexpected heartache is key. Keep those steps in sync, and who knows? You might just end up enjoying the music along the way.💃🕺

[Billlewis]

That's probably true.

[Daydreaming98]

Yeah. I accepted this shortcut. It's going to take me forever to start all over in the dating world and who knows if I'll even stay with him at the end or it'll be a break-up and then I have to start all over again. Meanwhile, upon accepting my friend's deal, I'll be skipping many of the dating steps faster.

[Billlewis]

I think that's very smart. I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow or message me as well if you'd like. Thank you very much.

[Daydreaming98]

Cool. You're welcome