How do I convince my boyfriend that I'm not lying when I say I haven't had plastic surgery?

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I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 17, so naturally I was kinda underweight and had some issues with my looks, which healed as I got older. My body has started to grow, I don't look underweight anymore and overall I just look a lot better than I used to (I'm 19 now by the way). My boyfriend constantly brags about it and says that it's the "boyfriend effect" that has caused all this, but at the same time he constantly asks me if I've had lip fillers, buccal fat removal, rib removal, breast and butt implants and a nose job for some reason. I've repeatedly said that I haven't had anything done, and the fact that I have super strict parents who'll absolutely not allow it when I'm a teenager should put his suspicions to rest. He freaked out one day when he saw a stretch mark on my butt and thought it was an incision mark and bugged me about it the whole day. I've repeatedly told him I've not had any plastic surgery but he doesn't entirely believe me. At first I liked it and considered it a compliment, but now the constant nagging has become annoying. What do I do to get him to stop?

Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

Tell him the penalty for asking is you don't see him for a week. 2 weeks for the second offense, t3 weeks for the third offense and 1 month for all additional offenses. Boy are just like puppies. Reward and punishment works.

Also, since that annoys you start looking for a replacement and when you are certain pounce.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

If he’s your boyfriend and doesn’t know you well enough to know you haven’t had surgery, especially when you’ve told him more than once you haven’t, it may be time to find a new boyfriend. At least tell him in no uncertain terms how much this bothers you.

Realistic07 · Answer

You explain to him one more time that it is a stretch mark, identified to him that it is something that happens to everyone and will eventually and or has happened to him, tell him directly that it makes you feel uncomfortable how he speaks about you in a manner accusing you of getting plastic surgery. That it annoy you particularly after you have already told him you have not, and in addition that it makes you feel uncomfortable around him so if he would like to keep you around him, he will shut up 🤐 🤫.

Is very simple most of the time if somebody likes you they understand boundaries. If they’re all about playing games, and testing your boundaries, they can be all about not being around you for a while.
Now don’t get me wrong when people do things in just or for the sake of playing a joke or being funny that’s fine and well. That said there is a limit to all things, and once that limit has been identified once or twice, if that limit is continued to be pushed, it is in the realm of disrespect.

In which case you should ask yourself if your boyfriend is so willing not to listen to you and so willing to be disrespectful of you, is it worth being around him? All said that is for after you tell him the second time as directed above if he continues to be behaving that manner, it’s time to determine that question. Now, if he’s done this many times and you’ve told him many times then it might just be time to make your own decisions on this.

So ultimately, the three decisions are:
1. Get over it ( Not an awesome option)
2. Have a more serious conversation with him and really set some boundaries. (I like this one this one sounds realistic)
3. Straight up, except the fact that he doesn’t care and leave. ( This probably combines really well with two. Maybe two should be followed first and then if not come back to this.)

Yeah, I would like to order the 2,3 Combo meal with the prize inside. (The prize is self-respect)
In fact, to everybody reading, just go with the self-respect option talk about it if nothing’s done burn that bridge to the ground. Mind you this does not apply to every situation just her specific situation.

I had to put that disclaimer in there. But yeah, that’s basically my advice. I do wish you luck and hope that you can work it out ultimately but remember there’s nothing in this world that’s worth wasting time on if it’s not something that is to Your betterment as a person. If he is not willing to be that for you, then you might not be able to stay in a relationship that is not providing that for you. That doesn’t mean money necessarily and that doesn’t mean someone who’s basically a therapist. It just means someone who’s willing to be there, and go through life with you without making it worse to live. It’s not perfection that is a myth. It’s just comfort and peace while being able to live your life, that person lived their life, and both of you live your Individual lives together. In doing so acting and support of one another's dreams, and passions. Sure arguments will happen, and long drawn out disputes may occur, but at the end of the day somebody who one can make up with who’s willing to be understanding and forgiving, who you are willing to be understanding and forgiving with. I think that should be everybody’s Goal in a relationship just to raise each other up, not bring each other down.

Well, that’s my long-winded opinion. I hope it helps in some way.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

I've heard that sometimes guys will accuse a girl of having breast implants, in the hope that she'll get so sick of it she'll tell him, "No, seriously, they're real! Touch them yourself, if you don't believe me!"

But if you've been dating him for three years, he probably already has touching privileges.

Another possibility is he pretends to think you've had surgery, because he expects you to find it cute or flattering or something.

Or still another possibility is that he's so fascinated with your transformation from "flat-chested girl" to "giant-boobed girl" that he can't stop talking about it, no matter how hard he tries.

If you tell him, at the end of your next date, "No, we're not going to play peek-a-boobie tonight, all your surgery comments have made me uncomfortable about them," that will probably give him a reason to shut the hell up about them, once and for all.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'd start with asking him 33 questions without giving him any time to respond:-

What would make you stop nagging me?
Would you want me to lie and admit to something I didn't do?
Would that make you happy?

His response would be.. No I just want the truth to which you respond with... "Nah, I tried that but you for some reason don't want the truth.. I'll tell you what... I'll lie to you if that's the only way it will shut you up.. I've had face, neck, foot, leg, arm, nose, boob, arse, and every other bit of surgery you can imagine.. and if you keep on? I'll have to go in for brain surgery next.. will you be happy then?

JosyJosy · Answer

I'd give him the option "to be right", annoying him. My parents once was accused me of going to do something which I wouldn't, and they kept saying I would. So I told them that if they want to be right so badly, I would go ahead and do what they accused me of. They were Pissed. But I didn't get lectured or anything. If they don't wanna be right, they shouldn't push that idea.

Same with your boyfriend. I'd tell him that it's really getting annoying that he won't drop the surgery bs. And ask him if he wants me to get plastic surgery. If he says no, then I'd get in his face and ask him why he's nagging me about plastic surgery over and over again as if he wants me to get some.

JTinSC1981 · Answer

This guy is neurotic and you need to get away from him. This is unhealthy compulsive behavior. Run. Find a new guy.

This is the type of personality who will obsessively believe you're cheating on him even if you're not. People like that can be dangerous. Not saying he is, but he could be heading in that direction.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Next time he asks, you respond, "I've answered that question many times before and my answer hasn't changed, but it's quite annoying that you think I'm a liar. I can't live like this the rest of my life so please either trust me or tell me you don't trust me."

DishLady · Answer

Tell the moron that it's called collagen and women produce it in their bodies naturally. It's why our faces and backsides suddenly look spectacular around ages 18-25... why our mouths look plump and more rosy and why every guy in sight stares or smiles or tries to talk to you.

Don't throw your youth away on this guy. He sounds like SUCH a creep for making you self-conscious about how you look. Stay strong and beautiful, sweetie.

Finchie40 · Answer

You don’t need to convince him , you gave him an answer and that’s all you have to do , if he doesn’t want to believe you? Tell him That’s his problem not yours , and if he doesn’t like it? There’s the door , don’t let it hit ya in the ass on the way out. Just ignore his ass , and distance yourself from him and tell him he is annoying and until you stop being annoying? i don’t want to see you anymore , if he apologizes and eventually does it again? Dump his ass , he is immature

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

You can't convince him. But to answer you last question...

Step 1: Threaten to leave him if he doesn't stop.

Step 2: Leave him because he won't stop.

Step 3: After several months of being broken up, ask him if he's finally learned the error of his ways. If he says yes, then you've solved your problem. If he says no, get another guy.

nawtee_me · Answer

If you all have been together for the past three years then ask him why he did not see the bruising that would come from such surgeries? At what time would you have gone to have the procedures and him not known of it? Ask him where he was when you did it because for him not to have known he would have to have been gone away….,

IslaTheWitch · Answer

stop to react... tell him you won't answer unreasonable questions anymore and really stop to do it as long as you give him attention he will use it...

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Sounds like this boy (because this is no man) has some mental hang-ups on this particular issue.

Don’t be afraid to draw a hardline and demand a change in behavior and, if he can’t comply, then a break-up is where he’s driving you toward.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You have NO obligation to convince him of anything.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

he sounds incredibly fucking stupid and immature. you really want to put up with that when life will change you from how you are now?

Radiate143 · Answer

He is negging you and you fell into his little mind game trap. Just say ok you're right and grey rock him.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

You need to set a boundary, you've already answered this if he does not believe you then that's his problem and you can't allow him to keep asking you that. That's offensive to think you couldn't have just changed naturally, take charge

BarryLiverstone · Answer

If he’s constantly asking or accusing there is a source to his questions. It’s not normal to repeatedly ask these questions. Have you dug down and discovered why he thinks about this?

SphynxUK · Answer

He’s got a problem. That’s all I can bother to say. Why are you with him again?

boggboss · Answer

Why wpuld u want a boyfriend thats clearly such a fool lol this is crazy

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

just tell him that you he better not bitch and complain about it when all this starts to fade if you are still with him at +30

Nerdvana · Answer

You can't convince him of anything. You can only tell him the truth. It's up to him to believe you or not. He sounds immature.

Anonymous · Answer

How big did your boobs get so quickly for him to think you had implants? Also, shouldn't he know what real boobs feel like? Same question could apply to your butt!

genericname85 · Answer

LoL why convince him? if he doesn't believe it, that's his issue not yours.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you have enough spare money for those things because you just described around $100,000 of work.

Iron_Man · Answer

Have him talk to your parents your parents know everything

JesseP1nk · Answer

What the fuck is this? Why you need to convince him?

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't like you lol. Why do you keep trying? Tale a hint and go

RedInnocent69 · Answer

You shouldn’t care less. If he brings it up, you should be like, sorry I’m naturally this hot.

Anonymous · Answer

I would just say that his question is insulting and he should stop being a child about it

jjj101010 · Answer

Tell him, if he doesn’t believe u then there’s no trust and end it

Anonymous · Answer

He sound jealous af

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