Why doesn't he want me to get plastic surgery?

Question

I have small boobs. Like smaller than I would be happy with. But my boyfriend doesn't want me to get a boob job and implants. Every time I bring it up, he tells me that they are fine the way they are and that he doesn't want me having surgery. Why would he do that? Is it actually cause he is ok with them or is it because he doesn't want other guys checking me out so he doesn't have to worry about competition? I don't even feel like they are sexy or I am sexy with them. He is my first boyfriend and before him no guys ever even seemed at all interested in me. I still never catch guys checking me out or taking peeks at me even when I wear low cuts etc. I want to feel sexy and I also want to actually be hot for him to turn him on better and give him a better experience. But he resists it. Why is he doing this? Should I get the surgery anyway?

Nmalinova · Accepted Answer

If you are doing it to get attention from others, don't do it... why impress people who have no influence in your life at all? And where does it stop? You might start with breasts, will you then want your legs to be lengthened and go for appropriate procedures? Or botox? All of this is an addiction, because once you have 'fixed' something, there will be a next problem area... at the end of the day you will have spent all your money on painful procedures and will be sitting at home or living less than optimal, rather than spending money on something that would actually be fun, such as some sports or travelling...

On the other hand though, if you REALLY want to do it for YOURSELF, because it would make you feel more feminine, then go for it and do not listen to what your boyfriend says... It is selfish of him trying to take a decision on your own body, furthermore saying no to something that would make you happy!

It is just really up to you and your motivation for why you would want it done :)

natured · Accepted Answer

I think your idea of "him being scared of competition" is really awkward, how would you even come up with that?
Anyways, he loves you the way you are, and you must feel lucky, and you must love your body as it is, trust me, you don't want to have back pain like me from boobs, I wish i could give you half of mine, I'd rather be flat chested dude.

Goldie757 · Accepted Answer

If you are doing for your boyfriend then no. He clearly likes you the way you are and might find implants a turn off.

If you are doing this for attention from other guys then no, you have a guy who loves you and finds you sexy as hell. These other guys do not matter.

HermitNYC · Accepted Answer

Three questions: Why doesn't he want you to get the surgery? I think he likes the way you look now, and doesn't want you to "change" to something phoney.
Why is he doing this? You ask, he says he doesn't agree, why won't he change his mind ( or lie to you) so? you can get his "support" in this decision? Before you ask him again, make sure he knows what response you want him to have.
Should you get the surgery anyway? In my opinion (you asked) NO! At least not at this time.
But it is your decision to make. I agree with a couple of others that if you do get enhanced boobs, don't kid yourself that you are doing it for your boyfriend's pleasure. He won't lust for your body any more because they have been re-shaped and stuffing has been added.

Mr_Knowitall · Accepted Answer

you will have to ask him to get a honest answer. I could only guess how would it feel if i was in his place... I would say he rejects it coz he doesn't really like fake boobs, or find them unattractive. The competition theory might be true but it's unlikely. I really believe he loves you the way you are and I think you should too. Being sexy and feeling sexy is a mind-set and it should come form you and from the people that loves you - NOT from drooling men. Surgery can boost your confidence, but it will always be fake. Overcoming this by yourself will help you better in the long run. Many sexy women and models that kept their tits just as they are - and they are as sexy as one can be!

slatyb · Answer

NO, you should not get the surgery. Your breasts are beautiful just as they are. Plenty of guys are happier with smaller breasts. He's doing this because he doesn't want you to go through unnecessary and expensive surgery. They will get larger as you age, especially if you have children.

Intraluminal · Answer

Obviously he finds you hot enough. No one picks the ugly girl and says, oh, but at least no one else wants her. It is SO not true that there's even a joking song about it called "Make an ugly woman your wife"

Some guys just like a smaller bust. That's life. Nevertheless, if you really want it, then go get it.

Curmudgeon · Answer

Here are some reasons:
1. You are only 18-24. Your shape will change with time, especially if/when children come.
2. At your age, there are more important ways to spend your money, like education or developing a career or even travel.

So, wait a few years at the very least, and postpone getting those implanted boobages until after 30 ideally.

azathoth · Answer

He likes them the way they are. If part of your reasoning for wanting bigger boobs is because you want more guys to check you out, what does that say about you? If he likes them the way they are, making yourself fake will just upset him, not give him a better experience.
Big boobs are good
small boobs are good
fake boobs are bad

steveguitar · Answer

He's not worried about other guys. He doesn't want a shallow girlfriend. He doesn't want somebody feeling like shit because her boobs didn't grow to her desires against what she thinks is a social norm or stigma.

Honestly I wouldn't date a girl who already had fake boobs, and I would totally leave a girl who got plastic surgury

FakeName123 · Answer

1. Implants will not fix your lack of self-esteem.

2. Surgery has plenty of risks. Implants even after the surgery have planty of disadvantages.

3. He wants you and to touch and feel you and not some artifical product. If he wanted that, he could get a blow-up doll.

4. He doesn't want a fake girlfriend.

5. You will not turn him on, if he finds it a turn-off. Duh. What kinda logic is that?

TripleAce · Answer

Hate to break it to you.. but fake titties won't help you that much

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Becuase he prefers natural over fake, good man. I would do the same.

zagor · Answer

Because he doesn't want you mutilating your body for vanity. As polls here indicate, most guys prefer natural over enhanced.

Also, it is kind of insulting to him: "You're the best I can do right now but maybe if I get bigger boobs I can do better". That is kind of the message you are sending.

senna_mp4 · Answer

I guess he is like me in a way. At the end of the day your body is your body and you can do anything you want, but i honestly don't like how fake boobs look. Choice is yours. Seems like you found a guy who loves you no matter the size of your boobs. Seems like a keeper, no?

Drooogie4 · Answer

If you want the surgery, get it. Its your body, not his body. But, that being said... he probably likes them as they are, even if you dont. I doubt its some ploy against other guys lookin at you.

bdr8046 · Answer

If you're want it done for him, don't do it. He isn't lying when he says they're fine. Most guys would rather have a girl with small natural breasts than large fake ones.

Anonymous · Answer

Welp its expensive, the upkeep is frequent, and if you get an infection then your tits  could be gone altogether. He probably just like you the way you are.

Woodlandgnome · Answer

Some men, me included, find small breasted women very attractive.

IQuestionExcistense · Answer

No, don't get it, some guys like really small boobs, I know I do for sure.

abundantlyrich · Answer

So your doing the implants to please him? Then he has a right to say no to implants

Pomegranate139 · Answer

Get the implants for you. Bigger boobs are sexier anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

what i usually tell a girl when it comes to this is

"as long as you know what you'd be getting yourself in to, be my guest, just don't count on me, to be paying for it, since it's not my body.. and it's not covered by insurance"

Bigtom155 · Answer

Don't do it. Small natural boobs beat fake boobs any day of the week.

Anonymous · Answer

If he likes you how you already are, then why change and become someone he doesn't like as much?

Why doesn't he want me to get plastic surgery?

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