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My cousin is transgender, and I suspect the guy I was talking to had a sexual interest in transgender women based on things I noticed about him. I opened up to her about how his actions, along with other things he did, left me feeling hurt, unattractive, and not good enough. He ghosted me, and on top of that, I realized he had other sexual preferences that I wasn’t aware of.

I shared my feelings with my cousin, but I still have conflicting emotions about it all. At one point, I even asked her to look at his social media to see if I had missed anything, but then I told her to forget it because I didn’t fully trust her. I worried she might talk about me behind my back, and the thought of that triggered a breakdown because, despite everything, I still have strong feelings for him and just want to feel like I’m enough for him.

However, she went ahead and looked anyway. I found out through my mother that my cousin had not only checked his social media but even attempted to reach out to him. When I confronted my mother, she dismissed my feelings and defended my cousin, saying she would never do anything like that—despite her actions proving otherwise. My mother then tried to gaslight me, saying things like, “I’m sure you’ve done things too,” which was incredibly hurtful.

It broke my heart because I would never betray a family member like that or try to interfere with someone they had been involved with.

I matched with a guy on tinder and after texting for a few days we decided to meet up. It went so good and I feel like we both genuinely vibes and I got the sense that I could trust him (which has never happened to me before). After the date his response times increased and we were texting back and forth multiple times a day and the conversation was engaging on both parts. We made plans to meet when we both got back from our vacations but haven’t set a date yet.

Its the Christmas holidays now and he went on vacation with a friend and his response times have dropped, i expected this because obviously you’re gonna be more busy and on your phone less during the holidays and my anxious attachment is really self sabotaging me right now making me feel like he’s going to ghost me (it’s been 13 hours since my last text and no word from him). There’s only an hour time difference between us so that’s not really an issue.

please let me know if im overthinking or not thank you!

ANY NAMES IN THIS STORY ARE NOT REAL NAMES, THEY'RE COVER UP NAMES

I am a 17 year old girl. Last year due to reason I will not share on here I swore to never fall in love again. Anyways, 5 months later I fell in love with a "16 year old". In September of this year, he asked me out and I accepted. My new boyfriend never gave me any reason to not trust him. Then recently, his ex, Paisley, asked me how old I was and I told her. She asked why he'd date a 17 year old because he's 13 and just turned 13 last month. I told her I was confused because he told me he was 16 and turned 17 last month. I asked a couple of his other exes, Harley and Kaylee, how old he said he was to them. He told Harley and Kaylee he was 15, Paisley he was 13, and told me he was 16. I asked boyfriend why Paisley was saying he was 13 and he said "I'm not. She likes to lie a lot. Maybe she's just jealous" After I talked with boyfriend I talked with his exes again and Harley said she thinks he's lying about his age to date us since he gave us all different ages. Harley and Kaylee both say he looks 13 and I do have to agree that he does look young, but once he said he has a baby face for a teenager. Honestly at this point I don't know who to trust because it's all so confusing. Who do you guys think I should trust or what should I do?