Why do females tend to give men second chances after they cheated on her or broke the trust between them?

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I’m not saying guys’ don’t give second chances but it seems females’s tend to give second chances more than guys’ do , Why is that? What goes through a girls’ mind when she takes a cheater back into her life? Does she think they can rebuild the trust and love together or is she just taking him back to eventually screw him over and string him along for her own selfish benefit?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I think it's because of the "benefits" she's getting out of the male.

I mean, I see women online sharing the same guy simply because he's hot. But let's say she's with that guy because he led with his wallet, and provides the money. She's going to be mad, but as soon as she figures out what she wants is secured, she'll let it pass for that "benefit." She might remain a bit more on guard against it because, if some other chick gets him emotionally, lustfully, or gets pregnant... that "benefit" is going to take a hit.

So why the gender difference?

I think it has a lot to do with why males get with a woman compared to the average woman. I don't see a lot of guys out there demanding women be of a certain education level, a boss bitch with a career, or that she has to have certain cars and certain clothes. I mean most men don't give a fucking shit about her material wealth like a woman would care about the male's. Those guys do exist and they're out there, but they're few and far between.

My own theory that women will accept sharing the same man tends to hold true when he's a mega provider. Not saying the women like it, but they'll overlook it.

I am sort of bias since I'm in a relationship where my wife is bi, and brings girls in and out when she wants. I'm not a mega provider, but the girls like it, and she gets her "benefit" of random girls... as do I. She does maintain control over it though... whatever she says goes. If anything too friendly goes down, my wife removes her from the picture pretty fast. It's not really cheating since it's all open air, known, and agreed upon... but I think it's a good example of what I'm talking about when it comes to women being willing to share.

For us dudes... I don't know why cucks are the way they are, but to me... the idea of another dude is like a disease infecting my goods. I wouldn't accept a dude getting thrown in the mix like that. I hate to use the term beta, but for lack of a better word, that's the type of dudes that share with other dudes... typical beta dudes.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

When this happens it’s usually because the cheater has emotional and/or financial leverage over their partner.

Take Conor McGregor for instance. Everybody was all asking “his wife is going to leave him” but in reality he’s been doing cocaine, partying and cheating on her with hoes for years. But now he was (civilly not criminally) found guilty of SA everybody is asking “oh is she going to stay with him?” Ah she knew damn well why what was going on for years but she turned a blind eye because she didn’t want to pass up all that wealth and fame.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I‘ve only taken back 2 who broke the trust. With the first, i was in middle/high school so i was naive in general. Bt we had broken up once i learned about the cheating yet i kept taking him back after all his apologies and claims to change. With the other guy which oddly enough was 14 years after that relationship AND this guy kinda reminded me of the first boyfriend by the end of the relationship, I only took him back because the things he did was before we were official. I felt like i couldnt be as mad considering he was only chosen because things didn't work out with someone else. So we were practically eachothers backup plan so i gave him a pass. But as for all the guys i dated in between the two, i would not have given them passes. Only one out of those in between guys actually cheated anyways. And i didn't find out til after i had broken things off

Crazymybeat005 · Accepted Answer

I think it is all about a bond or connection shared. Simply trying to get what they had back without starting over. The trust may never be the same anymore but I think women tend to see the good in people more than males, and I'm not saying it isn't true for both parties. Many factors could also affect why they would go back to a cheating partner when you think about it, it could be a plethora of things. But I hope it wouldn't be for own sick pleasure to get back at the guy, that's just immaturity.

RavVid · Answer

First I don't think girls do do this much any more than men do.

But there are some threads that could lead to different attitudes.

First is that whilst purity does have currency with men as it is an indicator of likely fidelity and unlikelihood of fathering another man's child. That just doesn't factor in for women because their baby is their baby..

Instead a woman is likely to favor a man who has learnt the tricks of the trade on other women first and subsequently rejected them.

Second there is an evolutionary female strategy called Mate COPYING. Somewhere in the female reptilian sex brain there are a few synapses saying if that girl is interested in that guy than I should be too. Particularly if the other girl is attractive. If a girl has spread for her boyfriend/husband than female mating strategy might be saying to her well that girl has good breasts.

Female logic can be if she was interested enough to let him in then my boyfriend/husband is more valuable than I thought and I haven't been as nice to him as I could be. I know what to do she thinks, "I'll fuck his brains out".

A girlfriend did fuck my brains out. I hadn't cheated but my girlfriend figured out I was becoming quite attracted to this other girl and that the other girl was attracted to me. You could say I was starting to emotionally cheat.

After being upset for a while she decided to fuck my brains out. Still one of the best sex events ever - she moved so sweetly under me.

I have also noticed if you have fav stripper she'll get lazy. If you acquire another fav the two will acclimate to each other. If you acquire a third fav, it is radically different. The two earlier favs get very competitive and you get way more bang for your buck.

I am pretty convinced this competitive female streak explains it. Another girl spreading her legs, increases the mans value in his girlfriend's eyes.

Anonymous · Answer

because those cheating men are good looking and handsome

an ugly man would never get a second chance, heck he would be expected to give his cheating spouse a second chance or he's just an entitled misogynist

SleepingHazard · Answer

The women I know who've done this are the "fixer" type of people, who feel like they can repair something they never broke. The man decided to cheat and they want to become better women, so they put in more effort, but they were hardly ever the issue anyway.

genericname85 · Answer

cause women tend to pick their mates based on what they see in them in the future to begin with. they typically put less emphasis on what they are now. so they have an easier time looking past the fact that he cheated them now in hopes of having a loyal and trust worthy partner in the future. of course that's pointless and idiotic, cause he'll cheat on them again but it is what it is.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Because cheating men are good at manipulating and there are women who fall for it.

Ariesman81 · Answer

Probably a lot of "I know I shouldn't..." and "I know he's bad for me".

I really don't think women are as maniacal as you think. They just put more stock in how they feel. A dude that can cheat makes her feel like he's valued and therefore validated.

chrissykerdock · Answer

not really i broke up with a boyfriend just because he had dinner with someone else

Cat67 · Answer

YES Finchie40 I believe you have a good point they say a woman never forgets. And they say they will store it away and use it against you for another day. Your point is valid or maybe they cheated and they won't let you know about that.

Meisdipa · Answer

Never had I given anyone who cheated another choice.

Ferngully2000 · Answer

Because females think they really love them and that they will change. Maybe a low confidence thing too.

Kelly6 · Answer

@finchie40 i would give second chance, but not every female will do it as @abbycado 😆

Agape93 · Answer

Fuck no. And to the catfish, keep my friends name out your fucking mouth

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I would say women are more empathetic and we try to rationalize men. It’s easier to forgive when Media has trained your brain to believe it’s a mistake and not a character flaw from a very young age.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Love.. when we fall in love its hard to let go..

Oldschool1981 · Answer

TBH, being cheated on isn't a deal breaker for me in a relationship.

Jackblue · Answer

I don't think they do so as much anymore. In the old days women were taught to feel that seperation from her man was equivalent to a living death, but times change.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Some women have flaws - not all women. Would 🫡🙂

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Most of these men don't see themselves as being in a relationship with these women. Most women are sharing a man with one or more women. There just aren't enough Chads to go around.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are more comfortable sharing a high value man, than men are willing to share a high value woman. That's the long and short of it.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Because we’re stupid. Especially when we’re young.

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

Redemption is wishful thinking with the human condition

Abbycado · Answer

I would never.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Because we are emotional beings

Anonymous · Answer

Well it'd be too easy to say stupidity.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

before she become a escort agent.

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