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If you had a great, loving relationship with you sibling (s), which is more hurtful? Losing the older sibling that you looked up to or losing your baby sibling you cared for/protected?

I have two tragic stories to share:

My friend lost her older brother (10 years her senior) whom was like a father figure and her personal martial arts instructor. Their father left when she was just a 3 month-old baby. He taught her how to cook and several other skills too. When she lost him in an auto accident a couple years ago (the dude was just 34), she felt lost in life. She felt nothing without him. Eventually she worked it out with a therapist.

I was reading a terrible story about a woman's baby sister getting stalked and killed. The girl has barely turned 18 and was the baby sibling in the house. All her siblings felt hopeless and powerless that they couldn't be there to protect her, to save her.

I don’t think he does based off something that happened today, but I definitely have strong feelings for him.

This is a long story so buckle in.

I’ve been friends with this guy who’s almost 10 years older than me since I was 19. He went to back to college, and that’s how we met. We’ve always just been friends and never crossed any lines with each other and are part of the same group. He graduated 3 years ago and moved back to our hometown (turned out we’re from the same city), but we’ve stayed in touch and I see him almost every time I visit.

Last year we were hanging out and the topic eventually went to dating (not each other just in general). I described my perfect guy and he said something like, “oh like how we do?” And that’s the moment the light bulb clicked in my head. Ever since then I’ve been developing feelings for him. I felt like he wasn’t returning my feelings, so I backed off to try and readjust my emotions.

A couple months ago, he called me out the blue and we’ve been texting/calling/watching shows through zoom together practically every day the last few weeks. My feelings for him are back and are definitely getting stronger. I’m not sure how he feels. It’s like he’s hot and he’s cold, he’s definitely sending mixed signals. He’s asked me what my plans for grad school are, wanted to know if I’d move out of state to go to the same school as him, stays on the phone with me while I share my location while in traffic, etc. In a show we watched recently, they were talking about date ideas and he kept telling me he wanted to take me to those places, so I started to feel like he might feel the same as me. Today I finally had enough of wondering and texted him that I’m wanting his attention more and more, and he deflected it and made a joke.

When we met 8 years ago, I was just a kid and he was pushing 30. I’m worried he still thinks of me as a kid and doesn’t see me as the woman I’ve grown into.

Is he just a good friend? Does he want more? What do I do?