Why do some insecure women have mixed signals, flip-flopping between wanting a guy to look at her body and acting self-conscious around him?

Anonymous

I've seen this happen a few times. Women who act like that have been attractive and have gotten plenty of attention from guys, and have given clear signs of being interested in me. One girl bent over right in front of me (obvious enough for bystanders to notice and say "damn, did you see what she was doing"), and next thing, she was acting awkward and self-conscious, making a display of being uncomfortable around me. Another girl would constantly smile and do things like squeezing her butt in front of me, then suddenly start pulling her shirt down over her bum when she passed in front of me, with an creeped out facial expression (which really turned me off).

Girls who do that have flirted a lot and gotten jealous of other women, but that behavior makes me uncomfortable and makes me want to just walk away. But when I pull away, they will start giving me attention. I've never actually gotten a date with a girl who does that: they will flirt and try to get attention, but pull away if I make a move toward getting a date or hanging out.

It doesn't seem like a game intended to confuse me and keep me of balance, it seems like a sign that they're insecure. Why do some insecure women have mixed signals, flip-flopping between trying to get a guy to notice her body and acting uncomfortable around him (when it's a guy she's into)?

Why do some insecure women have mixed signals, flip-flopping between wanting a guy to look at her body and acting self-conscious around him?
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