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Hey, so I have a huge crush on a male coworker. We are quite close at work and we flirt together. However, we are not in a position to date each other.

I saw him the other weekend and we were both a little drunk. I ended up telling him how I felt about him. I asked him if he liked me back and he said “you’re a lovely person”. I kept asking him, and he kept saying that I’m lovely. Eventually, he said “yes I do, but we can’t be together” and then we had a couple of quick kisses on the lips.

Since then, he’s been awkward around me at work. There is a stark contrast between how he was before and how he is now. He says that everything’s fine and our friendship is unaffected. He even said he didn’t remember what happened, even though I text him the next day apologising and he said it was fine.

Every time I’ve seen him outside of work and we’ve had a few drinks, he’s always been very huggy and has even nuzzled into my hair.

At work, he is hot and cold. He used to stare at me a lot but now he seems to avoid eye contact. And when we have lunch, he used to sit beside me or opposite me. But now he either sits by me but moves his chair further down the table or he sits diagonally opposite me.

I’ve noticed he does still joke with me and his voice goes soft if it’s just us two. Why is he being like this? Does he have feelings for me?

I think a coworker was flirting with me. I caught him checking me out a few times and before Christmas he strikes up a conversation with me and tried to extend it during the entire shift. He also kept asking me questions about my plans for the night, weekend, my living situation and offered several times that day to drive me home since we live in the same neighborhood. I had a feeling he was flirting with me because he seemed genuinely curious and always agreed with everything I said as if he wanted me to approve of him.

About 4 weeks later he came into my office (wearing pretty much cologne) even though there were plenty of empty rooms available so I figured he might like me a bit. But that day he was very busy and very disinterested in the conversation as if he tried to make the point that I’m not his type. Later he disclosed that his girlfriend was about to move into his apartment.

Now my questions are:

did he actually flirt the first time or was he just trying to be nice to a new acquaintance?

And if he did, why would he try to suck up to me if he already has a relationship and then pull back and act super disinterested in me?