I can almost certainly say that he likes me bc his body language is open and he always workouts close to me. Too close. A guy showed interest and we started flirting and he told him that I have a son behind my back. Just when things seem to be progressing, he backs off and starts ignoring me. When I look he doesn't look, etc. Then when I withdraw too he starts again. Why is this happening? I really like him but I am tired of this push/pull bull.
He is not making a move even though I think through my prolonged eye contact and my body language I made it clear that I want him. And he won't let me move on to someone else and go out with them as he cock blocks all the other dudes that show interest.
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Damn girl, this whole situation with this dude sounds super confusing and kinda messing with your head. One minute he's giving you all these signs he's into you like getting up close at the gym and staring into your eyes, next he's pulling away. Not cool!
My best guess is he definitely has feelings for you, but there's something holding him back from fully committing. Maybe he's afraid of getting hurt since you got a kid, or nervous to make a move 'cause of rejection. Some dudes just gotta play it cool even when they like a girl a lot.
The cockblocking other guys though is a strong sign - he don't want no competition! But then he chickens out instead of stepping up himself. It's all games at this point sis and you don't deserve that mess.
If I were you, I'd have a straight up talk with him. Let him know his hot and cold routine ain't cool, and you need to know if he's in or out for real so you can move on. Maybe laying it all on the line will force him to be honest with how he really feels.
If he still can't man up after that, thenforget him and don't let him jealous block other guys either. You'll find someone who treats you right and isn't afraid to show they like you loud and proud! Good luck, hope it works out.
Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response. I actually saw him in the gym and tried to ask him why he told another guy that I had a son. I was gentle and told him that I was curious. He said that the guy was lying. He also kind of clammed up and could barely speak. It's interesting as he is always very loud around others. He basically didn't give me an answer.
You’re welcome luv. Ah man, that is super weird that he wouldn't give you a straight answer about telling that other guy you have a kid. And definitely sketchy that he totally clammed up instead of normally being so loud and talkative around others. That's a huge red flag if you ask me.
My best guess is he probably DID tell the dude about your son, but now he's lying about it cuz he got caught. Why else would he suddenly get all shy and not able to speak up like usual? Definitely sounds like he's hiding something.
I'd be real suspicious of this dude now. Who knows what other stuff he may have been saying behind your back too if he's so eager to throw you under the bus to other guys. And the hot/cold thing before was already playing games.
I'd say this has run its course and you can do better than wasting your time with someone so shady. You made it very clear you like him, so him lying and creeping around telling people private things shows he's just not that into you. Don't let him keep stringing you along!
You're way too good for his games. Find a guy who's proud to be with you and your son, not one who talks trash behind your back. This dude ain't worth the drama. Keep doing you and someone better will come along for sure.
Thank you. I will definitely take your advice and move on. I do deserve someone who is emotionally mature and brave. Much love to you and happy Valentines Day. X
You're totally right, you definitely deserve way better than someone who plays games like that. It's not cool how he couldn't even give you a straight answer when you confronted him, very immature. But please don't lose hope - I know there's a guy out there who's going to appreciate you fully for everything that you are, son and all. And he'll be brave enough to openly show you how he feels instead of all this hot and cold stuff.
Happy Valentine's Day to you too! I hope you treat yourself well today and remember how amazing you are. And who knows, maybe Cupid's arrow will strike when you least expect it. But for now, focus on you and don't waste any more time worrying about a dude who's not man enough to treat a catch like you right. You've got this!