Things were going good between me and a guy I work with. We were both interested in each other, I made the first move but he was accepting. I made the move he was showing that he was interested in me. I wasn’t pushy. We had good interactions at work. We would have good conversations, we joked, laughed and we would flirt. He had asked me out on a date but unfortunately, due to my own circumstances, he decided it would be best for us to reschedule and rather than let him plan the next date considering I caused him to want to reschedule, I asked if he was doing anything this weekend and he said no and I then asked if he wanted to do anything and he said yes. He even said he wanted to take me to an Indian restaurant and considering I never had Indian food, I was all for it. The day before today (when he was cold and distant toward me) we were vibing as usual. When we first saw each other today, we spoke as usual. Nothing was official. There was no title between us two. Just two co workers, who like one another. So, I often see him talking to other women and I mind my business. Today was no different. I saw him talking to another co worker that I always see him talk with including me. We made eye contact when I saw them but I simply smiled and kept going. We ended up on break together and usually when that happens he or I usually would go to the others table depending on who was down for lunch first. It’s usually him, so often, I would go to him. Today, I was down for lunch before he was, scrolling on tik tok. I saw him enter the break room and just assumed after he warmed up his food and everything he would come over to me but he didn’t. My lunch ended and I ended up going past him at the end of my shift. He looked at me and looked away and kept doing what he was doing. My feelings have been hurt since. I haven’t texted him or approached him about it. I don’t know what happened or what I could have possibly did.
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I would have found you confusing and just shrank back to being co-workers. You seem to have taken a message of rejection where none was clearly given, and the whole turning away thing, I'd just let you go at that point as potentially emotionally unstable drama.
I mean but what was I suppose to think when he looked directly at me and looked right away and kept doing what he was doing? Then he looked at me on break and did the same thing, that literally is rejection and it’s no point of being delusional about it.
I mean, perhaps it's easier tell in person, but on the surface of it that doesn't sound like rejection in and of itself.
Could have been told by a superior that work-place romances are off limits, and he's intimidated by that.
Could have grown cold feet and is too immature to confess it.
many other reasons, but most of them involve him being too immature to tell you
Well, again with this narrative, it keep happening and girls never pay attention.. well, most girls.. you are a too easy girl, he just lost interest after being sure you have fallen for him.. and the hunter and prey game.. Men do that all the time.. please try not to be so easy next time and have some self value and respect.. i am also telling you that regarding the country you live in..