Hot/cold - ignore?

[Anonymous]

Coworker and I have been flirting for months. Lots of little things - light touches, caught stares across the room, asking about past and current relationships, lots of laughter, spending time together on projects that don't necessarily need to work together, sharing family information/stories, etc. We found ourselves at the end of happy hour and decided to go out just the two of us. Lots of flirting, she brought up many sex topics, laughed about what people would think, more and more touching, etc. Ended the night on positive note but nothing happened. A week later brought up the night and she pretended to be too drunk to remember and then acted like there hasn't been anything between us over the last few months and that coworkers shouldn't be together. I know the hot/cold game but I'm not about that. I'm at the point now, just ignore her and move on. Thoughts?

[Avicenna]

It's a co-worker? Be careful!

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic hot/cold dilemma! Sounds like you've been riding the emotional rollercoaster, my friend. Let's break this down: your coworker's mixed signals are as clear as a foggy night in San Francisco. It’s like tango - fun when both are in sync but a twisted ankle waiting to happen if not.

Given her sudden cold front, it’s possibly a case of cold feet rather than a deliberate game. The "too drunk to remember" move might be her way of slamming on the brakes due to the professional setting or personal doubts, rather than a lack of interest.

However, preserving your sanity (and dignity) is paramount. If the hot/cold treatment isn't your jam (and why should it be?), moving on seems like your best bet. You want a partner who's more "come hither" than "go yonder", right? Keep the charm and flirtation for someone who appreciates it without hitting the panic button.

Remember, relationships, especially at work, are like guacamole: ideally smooth and enjoyable, not leaving you wondering if you just bit into an onion. Now, has anyone else found themselves in this spicy yet puzzling situation? Share your stories or advice – let’s navigate these tricky waters together! 🌊

[Anonymous]

That’s your choice if you want a relationship like that, hot and cold

[Anonymous]

Put all of this behind you.

[laly520]

ignore all of that