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Woman's Viral Video On TikTok Shows The Real Consequences Of Casual Dating Into Your 30s - www.eviemagazine.com/.../womans-rant-tiktok-real-consequences-casual-dating-thirties

“Casual Dating Was Falsely Advertised

Casual dating was advertised as something that would empower women. We were told that we didn’t need to settle down with a man. Instead, we should date for fun, embrace our sexuality, and have as much meaningless sex as we wanted. We can take birth control, so what is there to worry about? Few people ever considered the emotional toll that casual dating would have on women, but the consequences have been dire for not only the women who engage in hookup culture, but even for those who don’t.

Casual dating was supposed to make women and men equal, but it ended up exacerbating inequalities.
The ironic thing about hookup culture is that while it was supposed to make women equal with men, it ended up exacerbating the very inequalities it was supposed to fix. Men get everything they want and more out of the deal. Now they can have sex with as many women as they want, they don’t have to worry about getting a woman pregnant, they get to embrace their inner Peter Pan Syndrome, and they can put off responsibilities for as long as they want – perhaps indefinitely. Meanwhile, women are left feeling empty inside.

Does Camille seem very empowered to you? No, she seems heartbroken. Her TikTok is hard to watch because you feel for her. Maybe you, like many women nowadays, are struggling with exactly the same issues she is. If anything, casual dating has empowered men a lot more than it ever empowered women. The idea that you can “have fun in your 20s and settle down in your 30s” might sound like a good idea, but it turns out that, as Camille points out, the men you date in your 30s are no better!”

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I am Neurodivergent. For those who need a brief understanding, it's a word to describe people with neurological disorders that changes the way they view, interact, and live in this world and the people in it. Things such as Autism, ADHD, and others are grouped into Neurodivergence.

This world was not built for neurodivergent people. And as a man, I'm not seen as being "manly enough". I'm seen as "too emotional", not stoic enough, worry too much, too weak, seen as lazy for not being able to withstand way more than a typical man can.

This also goes with relationships or finding them. This goes with pre-conceived expectations at work. Out in about in public. Trying to socialize.

People have these expectations and they expect and want me to be like everyone else. They try to "give me advice" on things I'm not doing well enough or demonize me for being different. Both men and women. And I must ask, do I need to? Do I need to fit into these molds made by society for a typical man just because I maybe "high-functioning"? Am I exempt from the standard molds and can just make my own?

I made an account a little over a week ago. I've had some matches and likes, mainly on the first day. Then they went down a lot, from what I heard that's the norm because of the algorithm. There are days that I have a lot of fun watching and chatting with my matches but there are others where I feel a little disappointed because I don't get likes. Curiously, I have done better with some girls with whom I did not match and put their ig in the description.

In any case, there are two things that I really like. First, I feel that it is useful since I have contacted people with relatively similar tastes to mine. And I don't consider myself a person with typical tastes so I appreciate that. Second, exposing myself has made me more motivated to go back to the gym and look good. I spent a long time neglecting my physique and I barely went out, even my social networks were barely occupied. Now I worry about it again.

Among the negative is the fear that people I know will see me, I already saw some girls from my university and school, also a co-worker of my sister.

What is your experience with that app? is it more positive or negative?