I accidently 'ignored' a girl I like, who likes me, and now she's ignoring me. Can I still win her back?

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I'll add a little more here but will keep it short and brief:

So I approached this girl at college who is reserved and shy after her giving me signs she wanted me to talk to her (like smiling and waving at me first, staring at me etc.), and I did after a few days of stuff like this. She'd been trying to get my attention for months I believe in other ways.

We got on really well and spoke to each other about all sorts, but she did seem tense and nervous but would open up more after a few minutes of conversing. I asked for her Snapchat after a few times of talking and got it. Problem is, I didn't really message her on it after I got it as not long after, I had some personal stuff going on at home + I was stressing over a big and hard assignment so my mood was a bit low.

I stopped going to the meals with her for 2 weeks; I did mention via text why 1 week in but to not worry her, I used a different excuse as she's a caring person, and she said "it was ok and to not apologise" and even asked me if I "was ok" the first time I didn't show up.

Go forward another week, and she sees me and says "hello" to me and I said "alright" to her. Looking back, it did seem a bit emotionless of me and she was probably missing me for those 2 weeks and to see me not appear happy to see her made her overreact as she unfriended me 3 hours later on Snap. 6 days later, I try to re-add her to explain and she blocks me within 10 minutes.

I think she thinks I do not like her.

Was it because I didn't give her enough attention that she thought I did not like her back? At the moment, I intend to smile/wave at her next time I see her and try to converse and say sorry to show I do still care, but explain I had stuff going on which affected me at the time of reaching out/talking to others.

So much for keeping it short. Sorry, lol.

Any advice would be much appriciated.

ManOnFire · Answer

Okay so both of you kind of messed up. I think you definitely messed up by not being honest and upfront earlier with her by letting her know you had things going on in your personal life. You don't have to detail those things, but you could've let her know that early on, so that she would be more understanding. Waiting till now to try to explain it is going to be somewhat difficult and kinda looks like you're just coming up with a story even though you're not, you just waited too late to communicate the situation to her.

But I also think she jumped the gun by unadding you so quickly and then blocking you when you did try to talk to her. She lost her shit and her patience much too soon, even if you didn't give the greatest communication she was expecting or hoping for. So even though your part wasn't perfect, how she reacted to it kinda says a lot about her character and how she handles interpersonal problems. I can't tell you not to date her or keep a connection with her, that's up to you, but her reaction gives you some insight into her.

I think you both made some mistakes and it probably can be fixed, but hopefully it's also a learning experience. Go on and explain to her that you had shit going on in your life, and if she doesn't accept that then you know to let her go.

Guy13 · Answer

But her cute flowers, don’t apologize or act like anything is wrong, and demand her Time either right then or make a date, time, and place date on the spot. In person of course…

SomeRandomGuy89 · Answer

There are more fish in the sea. You don't want that one. Catch another.

I accidently 'ignored' a girl I like, who likes me, and now she's ignoring me. Can I still win her back?

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