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28F, I've been asked if I’m asexual when I share my lack of sex drive & dating experience. I haven’t masturbated in years or had sex, if I never have it again I don’t think I’d be too upset. I don’t know if my looks are the issue I don’t think they are, there’s clearly a lot of other people worse off that find relationships lol. I’ve only used the dating apps since I don’t have a social life, getting likes/matches/msgs aren’t the issue it’s finding a connection. I find a lot of men attractive, have celebrity crushes etc. I’m attracted to men but with the men I’ve communicated with throughout the years, I’m turned off by their asshole tendencies. I know there’s good guys out there, regardless of how genuine they seem deep down I know they’re conceited & that behavior will come out eventually. Maybe I’m bitter or just lost interest in finding a guy to date, in a way I feel like I’m saving myself from that unnecessary frustration. I have a very short fuse but I’ll let you all put in your two cents

27F, I really have never had a relationship. I dated someone for maybe 3 months back when I was 23 & I felt like I was settling which is why I’m glad it ended. I never dated anyone after that, I’ve only met men through the dating apps bc I’m not a social person. I don’t get asked out in person other women seem to get attention so easily, I’m told I’m cute/attractive (not including female friends/family). I get attention from the dating apps, matches/msgs aren’t the issue it just never works out. I’ve always dealt with guys I’m not into liking me & the ones I like it either fizzles out or not reciprocated. After using the apps on and off over the years, I think I’m at the point where I feel I have to tell myself to be active on the apps, I’ve just kind of lost the desire haven’t been out with a guy in almost a year. I swipe on guys that liked my profile/reply to msgs every couple of days or so. Lack of sex drive may play a part but it’s not uncommon with women my age.

I had annoyed him so he said he hated me, hated time with me, hated going out with me in public, hated sex with me it was just to keep me sweet

Then a few days later said he just said it. He loves time with me, he loves me and sex is the best he’s had

Then again same thing happened this week he said he didn’t want to see me anymore and he hated how I am in public and tried to lie and say he hadn’t started sex that week when he had. Said time together wasn’t bad but wasn’t good that week.

We’ve lived together for 9 months. In those 9 months we’ve spend 4 nights a week together and had sex 4 x per week. We always had a laugh, he told me he loved me daily. Phoned me daily at work for an hour when he had to drive cars about. Said he was excited for dates. He also started the sex 2 times per week. Some weeks there was more some less. He told me loads how happy he was with me etc.

He asked me a few times for dates and I asked him a few times too. I usually asked him for time together but he always did it. Or hed say find something to watch.

We’d have 5 perfect days a week then he’d go weird for 2 days a week.

Did he mean those things or was it just to hurt me?