So i started seeing this girl from tinder, First time we met i picked her up and we went for a long drive our conversations were amazing. We both agreed to meet again when we both had time. Some days pass by and i go on a business trip for 10 days, While im away we're talking over the phone for hours every single day and life is great. When i come home from my business trip we meetup instantly and head for dinner. After some food and wine we go back to my place she spends the night we have sex... We spend hours the day after just lying in bed talking. I Then drive her home because i have another business trip the coming day. While im away we talk every single day. She then tells me she has feelings for me and i confess my feelings for her aswell. When im home again we meetup once more and this time we spend a total of 2 nights together. We're both having a great time enjoying eachothers company. We then plan to see eachother next week aswell. When the day we were supposed to meet she then tells me she doesn't want to meet this day. Days go by and i notice her going colder and colder. She has opened up to me that she don't believe in love cause of her ex-boyfriend. How should i take this?
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It’s a Test. Fight for her or not. Knight or Nodule ⁉️10
Ahhh she got a friend group for sure, the board of directors are doubting your credentials my friend, they see a crack in the pavement, might be your buisness trip, i for sue without a doubt bet one of the friends find you flawed. Not much you can do but reassure her that your not like that or ask her what about you makes her uneasy or unsure about your relationship. If its not this then she got trust issues she needs to work out maybe you can help, if she didn't believe in love she wouldn't have told you she liked you in the first place and maybe she more than just likes you and is scared you might be just like her ex-boyfriend. but remain consistent and steadfast, keep doing what you doing and show her your different and i'm sure it'll work out.10
Just be patient. Be consistently punctual, reliable, and show her that you are trustworthy.10
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She’s trying to tell you she’s been hurt. Her defenses are up now you are getting close. Maybe ask her what you can do to make her feel more comfortable.0
There might be a possibility she’s seeing someone else. I hate to say that. She could also be going through some insecurities or may have trust issues.10
keep going she will understand love grows as you know more about each other and trust each other. good luck and long happiness to you both10
This is just what happens when two people that barely know each other have sex. There is no real foundation, no real direction. You're just going through the motions and doing what you've both been programmed to do... go out, chat a little, go to dinner and then have sex. What was the reason? what's the end game? why did you do it? What was the point? This is why things have become stunted and look at the timing... after the sex. You declaring your feelings clearly and openly also has something to do with it as well. That kills tension and is based on what exactly? You barely know anything about her. Her feelings for you were also born from the bond created through the sex... but since she had sex with what amounts to a stranger it makes no sense.
As I've always said. If you see sex as something you'd only have with a woman that was fit to bear your child, and she only had sex with a man who proved himself to be fit to be the father of her children... both of your legacies... you wouldn't have been having sex with each other.