My girlfriend doesn't want sex, I need to fulfill my needs somewhere else, should I tell her or not?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend doesn't like to have sex before marriage, neither she do sex chat in video calls nor in text etc, she doesn't even tell me when she get sexual arousal she just ignore her sexual feelings and mine too. I have talked her a lot about this but she clearly says no. Recently, I met my ex she told me that she is single for quite a long time and she has a lot of sex drive and wanted me to met her occasionally like once in a month or twice for sex only until she finds someone else or she marry someone. I refused her and told her that I'm committed to someone else and I can't cheat on her, but it's been two years since I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend we I'm not getting pleasure even in chats and I want sex badly I have two options 1. Go for sex works 2. Bs in touch with my ex. But I want to do this with her (my girlfriend's) consent. Should I directly ask her about this I don't want to ruin my relationship I want to marry her.

PS: she also wants to marry me but not now she needs a year or two. I have introduced her to my parents but she has not told her parents yet. She said she will tell after few months and will marry next year or a year after that.

[Anonymous]

You can’t have it both ways, dude. It’s one thing if your girlfriend was having sex with you and then stopped, because you entered that relationship with a certain expectation and it wouldn’t be fair for her to take that off the table. But if she’s always been celibate and wants to wait til marriage, then you knew exactly what you were getting into and still chose to pursue. Now your urges are taking over and you want to give her ultimatums, consider cheating and just other very selfish routes of satisfying the flesh. She doesn’t want some man having sex with his ex and all that, she wants someone equally faithful. So you need to make the hard choices on her own, not make her feel obligated to have sexual with you.

[Opinion Owner]

**make the hard choices on your own, not make her feel obligated to have sex with you

[Asker]

Intially we used to have a lot of chats like this and video calls and but never got physical she used to say we can just do foreplay etc but we never did... And she was supposed to introduce me to her parents last year and we were suppose to marry this year but I'm still waiting...

[Asker]

I've turned down many excellent job offers just because of her, these offers were in a different city that was far away and she doesn't want to move. She kept telling me that she is going to introduce me to her parents and we will get married soon, just don't go away

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it’s time to start being more realistic about what’s actually happening within your relationship. Since you two are LDR, it’s so important for there to be a silver lining. That situation is not meant to be temporary, so when you’re trying to do things to progress and be closer, like getting a new job, moving, meeting her parents so you can eventually marry, etc and she keeps creating obstacles you have to ask yourself what is the hold up and if there are reasons she’s being so stagnant that she isn’t sharing with you. Her words are nice and sound promising but after two years of this, maybe you have to pay attention to the actions because those are what matters more than words.

[Anonymous]

You and girlfriend are unequally yoked. Break up with her. And go sleep with your ex.
I say this before your heart and desires are too strong.

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

If I was the girl you are with right now, and if you told me those things, i would KICK YOU OUT OF THE HOUSE and block you everywhere, dump your thirsty ass, move on from you and find myself a new dude.

I mean, just sayin' mah dude. You'll lose either way. Don't you ever forget it.

#HaveSomeEmpathy #ThinkLikeAGIRL

[dustybiker]

Have the respect to break up with her.

[sirderpsalot123]

Break up with her.