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So he has some serious anger issues. A few months ago he almost hit me during a verbal "confrontation" --- I put confrontation in quotes because he's calling me trash, piece of shit, etc., whereas I may have called him an idiot. He has moved in a way that our mother thinks he's going to strike her.

And tonight in an event where he's again cursing and swearing, etc., he punches at or kicks at our disabled father shouting for dad to get into another room.

I think he's cracked in the head. Nuts. Not just his anger issues but he's got severe control issues. There is no reason - not in upbringing, etc. - that he should act like this.

Personally I'd hate to be his girlfriend / wife as he's got all the signs of abusive controlling asshole.

So, I have a few tendencies when I’m angry to blame my boyfriend or yell, and The other day he broke up with me, as his therapist called me emotionally abusive. The kicker is, in November I told him I knew I could no longer have outbursts; and signed up for therapy. Due to my therapist and I both being out of town in Nov-Dec, I’ve only had 16 sessions that last a half our each (so eight hours total) and my progress has not been linear. I have always been clear with him that these outbursts are not meant towards him but stress or anger towards myself. He is on the spectrum, so it’s very difficult for him to process that (according to him), but he is aware. I just think that it’s unfair to label me, as I am actively working to rectify these issues. Do you label those who are actively trying to change abusers? Both my ex and my father are emotionally abusive, and neither is cognizant or their actions, but I have always been of mine.