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So I met this guy, went out on a date and we hung out multiple times, and I really enjoyed spending time with him.. My family came to visit me for a week so I didn't get to see him other than once since I was spending time with family.. His communication started changing.. He'd leave me on read or take hours to reply.. so I ended up texting him what's in the texts.. and his response. We haven't spoken sense. I haven't really reached out because if he is busy and being honest I don't wanna bother him. But we've also only known each other a few weeks. I'm not sure if I was overthinking or if he really just isn't interested and for some reason lied in his response. Either way.. I don't know. Should I reach out to him to see how he is doing? Or just let it be? I just don't wanna be texting him and him not actually wanting to hear from me..

This guy I’ve been talking to in a more than friendly way online for over a year told me that since I found out his real name, he felt a little nervous continuing to talk sex with me. But, he said he liked being my friend and still thinks I’m very hot.

Now a month in, I’m hearing from him on a daily basis again, he sends me lots of pics of what he’s doing, he asks me questions anddd he called me “doll” twice the past couple days which I specifically told him that I liked in the past. Is this him warming up to me again or am I overthinking it?

ex: what are you doing doll?

30f and I really can’t tell if I’m inevitably single because I don’t want a relationship or it’s a case of self sabotage. Within the past few years, the only attention I’ve gotten from attractive guys were on dating apps. But that should be taken with a grain of salt, I feel like compared to the average woman, I don’t get attention from quality guys in person. I’m pretty shy and tend to speak when spoken to, on top of bad anxiety, I’ll say I question if women can relate to my lack of sex drive. I haven’t had sex since my early twenties/don’t masturbate and couldn’t care less if I died a virgin, will feel some kind of way if I’ve never found love though.

It’s as if I want the reassurance I’m desirable (from what seems like decent men) vs actually going out on dates, I’m insecure but wouldn’t just go for anyone that gives me the time of day. I just don’t get why it can’t ever go my way w/ the OLD apps, it’s likely bad luck but a pattern of: ghosting, fizzling out, the convo not flowing to my expectations & I dip out, just lack of interest (can go both ways) etc. I’m attracted to men, I really don’t think id date a woman but something about men at the same time turns me off (physically & personality wise). Like almost every woman I've known has been boy crazy since they were pre-teens and I never got it, I thought they were exaggerating or I was a late bloomer. Well here I am 2 decades later, my closest thing to boy crazy were celebrity crushes.

Am I looking for excuses to justify being single? Is it simply a case of being unlucky? Is there more to unpack here? Or is the right guy all it takes for it to fall into place?