Girls, What is wrong with my female friend?

[Anonymous]

I have this married female friend who I have know for over a year. We now work together as well. Recently I noticed some changes. I catch her randomly staring at me. She’s always laughing at my jokes. I can no longer crack jokes on her like she does me because she’s sensitive now. I’m an affectionate guy but I dial it back a little for the few women friends I have that aren’t single out of respect. But she seems to crave it more than regular friends. She leans into it. Or if I don’t be affectionate she thinks something wrong with me.

The woman friend let’s call her sue. Sue has recently started random argument because I listened to her. She told me I was annoying and to leave her alone. I couldn’t go a day without annoying her. So I went 5 days. The 5th day I spoke and said hello and she unleashed on me. Her whole argument was that I was rude because I didn’t speak to no one. Then it changed to I didn’t speak to her. She thought I was mad. I told her she should communicate more and you’ll know the answer. She said, “ you’re not my husband I don’t have to communicate with you.” She’s being too sensitive about things now.

I accepted that. The following few days she wanted to move on from her irrational response. But when I started talking to other female coworkers then comes the jealousy. Sue doesn’t like the women I talk to or she thinks when I whisper in the other women ear that it’s about her. Why does she think when I talk it’s about her?

Why she doesn’t like none of the women I talk too. What’s wrong with her? Why the sudden change?

[_Maya_]

I am very confused and I read through this two times. What has changed? Her being sensitive? That is the only thing that I can possibly get from this post. She used to not be sensitive and now she is? You write...

"She’s always laughing at my jokes. I can no longer crack jokes on her like she does me because she’s sensitive now"

So she is laughing at jokes but you no longer tell her jokes. Do you see how this is a bit confusing? I don't know her anymore than I know you so it is impossible to tell what is going on. Sounds like to me that she might be having some personal issues if her mood or level of sensitivity has changed. The fact that she is turned cold is an indicator to give her space and let her sort out whatever issue (s) she is having.

[Asker]

I’m sorry. I in general tell jokes and people tell jokes back to me. Now she find simple jokes overall funny. She tell me jokes about me. But when I respond she gets sensitive about it. The jokes I tell are very simple for her to be overreacting to it…. To sum up everything I wrote She craves my affection more than she used to. From holding her, hugs from side or back. To sometimes our hands interlock now (weird). She has these random arguments about the silliest things. Then a few hours later she wants to act as if nothing happened and want to be held. She mentions she has a husband but only spoke about him maybe 5 times in the year. I’m not romantically interested in her so that confused me when she started telling me she has a husband out of no where.