Girls, why is my girl best friend acting weird?

[Anonymous]

As a background, we both know we're only friends she is dating someone, and I've been talking with other girls so I know that there's no feelings there but I'm worried by how she's been acting bc it's out of character of her. So it started when I asked her a question about a potential job bc i really value her opion, and she said I shouldn't take it because she wasn't there bc i would have to move, and since she gets upset about me not telling her about plans I had already set and where I go while acting super possessive of me like she has to be the only person in my life and she never has acted this way before. She then started to say I was avoiding and ignoring her when I've been busy with my job, even though i was still trying to invite her to do things and try to talk to her the same amount, but she would flake. I asked her what was wrong, and she said she felt like I was insulting and slapping her in the face for not telling her. I'd really appreciate some help. She and her were super close before this, and we don't talk much anymore or hang out, and it's only been a little over a month, and I don't want to lose that friendship.

[SueShe]

Looks like she has caught feelings for you and that she is very possessive and jealous.

That is not a good sign and it also reflects a toxic behavior and character. She is trying to restrict your freedom and she wants to keep control of your movements and speech.

That is not at all what friendship is all about. I believe it is time to distance yourself from her because she has a very negative influence on you. If you let her rule over your life and tell you what you can do and what not, then you will definitely lose her as a friend.

[Asker]

she def doesn't make any decisions for me so she's not controlling anything but her response to it was completely different than what she would normally say. Im def seeing that's she's being toxic though, but I don't know what to really do, just ignore her for a while or tell her I don't want to be friends. I doubt she has feelings or why would she be avoiding me?

[elizamichale1]

Well it seems she is getting interested in you n whether she herself knows it yet or not she maybe looking at u as her boyfriend

[Asker]

I just don't see it she's been avoiding me when i would try to make plans i feel like if it was so she would want to. I feel more like I upset her but I don't know why asking for advice would do that and why she would care about what I'm doing so much to get her mad... bit do you have any advice on what I should do?

[Anonymous]

Your relationship has turned toxic. It might be best to just move on.