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I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have a 1 year old daughter together. I also have a 9yo son from my previous relationship and my husband has adopted him. His family has always been toxic but it's always been in a "I feed off drama" way and nothing more. However, they really upped it last year. Basically my sister in laws husband hit my 9yo son in the back of the head out of anger (my son was playing tag with his cousin and ran inside and the door slammed behind him). It was a hard hit. Cops were called and the police did nothing because there was no witnesses outside of me and they called it a "he said she said" thing and stated that we needed to work through our own family conflict. They claimed my son wasn't a reliable witness because he wouldn't speak to them (he's incredibly shy, has ASD and was just assaulted by a grown ass man so he was already scared - he just kept hiding behind me saying "mum can you just tell them" and they took this as me making shit up and leading my son to say something that wasn't true).

When my sister in law found out what happened she was initially on our side and scolded her husband. But he threatened to divorce her, so she did a 180° and started claiming her husband did nothing wrong and that he only hit my son because my kid has been repeatedly told not to slam doors and didn't listen so her husband had an "impulse reaction" and claimed "no harm, no foul" because my son was fine. So, I cut all contact and when our daughter was born we refused to let her anywhere near her despite her being extremely excited for the baby and having made all these customized items for her. She was destroyed over it but oh well. Don't defend a child abuser.

Well, here it is a year later and my mother in law brought it up randomly and stated "I understand completely why he hit your son." So I told her to leave and she wasn't welcome back here around my children. Now my husband is upset because he wants his mother around.

I (19f) have feelings for a guy (21m) who I met on a dating app. For more context we have been messaging everyday for almost exactly a month. Worth noting we also live in different countries. Over this time I have become more infrastructure with him.

Problem is I am not sure if he feels the same or not. Maybe he just sees me as a friend? I just value my connection with him and I don't want to sabotage it.

This is what I plan on sending him,

"Hey, I know this is sudden, but I just want to confess. Basically, I've gained romantic feelings towards you. Idc if you don't feel anything back or what not. Apologies if this came off as weird. I just think it's important for you to know. Still, I hope we still text since I genuinely value our conversations. I sincerely want the best for you. I'll always be here if you need help unless I'm dead 😎"

Wanted to keep things light and chill since I don't want him to feel and presume and the ending falls into the humor him and I use together. Also, it's worth noting I am willing and looking into everything we would have to deal with in our relationship due to the distance and I'm willing to deal with it, and if he feels the same him and I will have a conversation about it.

Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.