Do you ever feel like you are just over relationships all together and realize life is better being single?

[Finchie40]

I would love to fall in love with a girl that loves me like I love her , but sadly it seems like every time I did and tried , I got my heart shit on too many times to the point I realized what’s even the point? Being single has made me realize I don’t have to answer to no one and can live my life as peacefully and content that I choose to , My wallet is filling up because I no longer have a girl that constantly needs things. that can’t go a day without spending money. I have always been an independent guy that provided for myself that doesn’t spend money like it’s going out of style , unfortunately most girls’ I been with just wanted to spend money like it grows on trees. I realized I only like independent girls’ that want to work with me and not against me. Sadly that’s hard to find these days. I usually end up meeting users

[sage2021]

What I did when I was 37 is I promised myself to take one entire year off from dating.
During that time I took some serious time to re-examine my life. A life that doesn't get re-examined at some point is doing yourself and injustice.

During that time I listened to a lot of affirmation tapes which would be videos now and read a lot of self help books mostly about relationships.

I also started going to a 12-Step program for Adult Children of Alcoholics/drugs


Although I never took illicit drugs or drank alcohol, my family did and he did have a negative affect on my life.

That program taught me how to undo some of the damage that was done to me growing up with everyone stoned around me all the time wasn't the greatest environmental for me to grow up in. I continued attending the program for 2-1/2 years and it was well worth it because everyone noticed a big difference in me - at work and my son.

Exactly to the day of my one yr off, I met a guy and we had a more healthy relationship and I could tell a big difference in the way I handled myself and situations.

[McLlovin]

I deeply respect anyone that tries to better themselves. You are a rare type woman, usually they just blame the dude and keep it moving

[sage2021]

@McLOVIN
Actually it gave me a good perspective of men. Since I was learning new ways to be with people, I started embracing men and bringing out their good qualities by saying positive things about him to him and complementing him - it uplifted him.
I am an anti-feminist and a Christian woman who has the fear of the Lord in me.
I was ok with feminists in the very beginning of its conception and it was for the same wages as men were getting to do the same work.
And I can't leave out the right to vote or someone on here will bring it up.
I stay off all social media except for GaG. GaG doesn't try to reprogram my brain 🙂

[SquishyBuns2628]

I'm in my first relationship that seriously took up my entire 20s (im 26 now) and I'm still so spent and tired. We might break up tonight but if not I'm seriously letting him know my issues with him. I'm not a fucking pretty bag of pennies but damn not even wanting to take photos or buy takeout when I visit or even sending me home in a Uber paid for by him is really irking my nerves over these past 6 years!

I wasn't happy being single because I wanted someone to not only chill with and understand me but also someone to get down with in the sheets! We haven't had sex ever I mean I know I said I wanted tonwait till marriage but I want to retract it so bad. And if sex doesn't work at least I can save the cost of an Uber ride to him and back home to save up for a dildo 🤔

[D_Bone_Steak]

BINGO!!! fucking hell someone finally said it. I'm just stuck in a marriage so I can't talk too much shit.

It's just easier for me to stay in this... but if you think I'm enjoying myself... ha!

Where do I begin? Quiet time only happens when she's gone. She blows money on bullshit. If I bring money into the picture, that's just going to get worse. And I don't want to keep going because I'm just going to get depressed.

I'm just saying I'm jealous of the single guys at this point in my life. Imagine getting to just drink extra beers and not get bitched at for it... talk to friends without her hanging on my arm and trying to pull me away from just talking shit. Maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side, but I get sick of her shit.

[Finchie40]

My man the grass is greener on the other side if she is doing that shit to you , My ex use to try to control me as well when it came down to having some beers with the guys’ and trying to cut me off from having fun , calling me an alcoholic when clearly I wasn’t but in her mind I was , because I liked drinking beer on occasion with friends’ To the point I told her to shut her mouth because she knew I liked beer when she met me I also drank beer at home instead of going out to bars and clubs but I was always the bad guy , she thought she could change me , nothing I did was ever good enough , I told her would you rather me go out to bars and clubs and come home late hours in the night or not come home at all? I am sitting on my patio FCS. Give me a break . Her and I also set boundaries together that I had to follow but she decided she didn’t , basically double standards which didn’t go so well , she was nothing but controlling and manipulative when it come down to me wanting some fun , but when it was her turn to have fun , how dare I say something about it , I am just insecure and I need help , I would laugh , to the point I told her Good luck it’s over. She was a very selfish person that only cared about herself , only waned thongs her way and could never take accountability for her selfish actions and behavior, she could never admit she was wrong. So I ended it with her and separated from her and during that time I met some really great girls that were complete opposite of her. But stupid me gave her another chance thinking things might be better , I was wrong yet again. But this time around I am not giving her another chance period , being single has been absolutely amazing she is still begging for me back , the girl is nuts

[KrakenAttackin]

Yeah something women don't realize it acknowledge:

For men, being in a relationship brings A LOT of RESPONSIBILITIES and very few PRIVILEGES.

For women, being in a relationship brings A LOT OF PRIVILEGES and very few RESPONSIBILITIES.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Gawd I think I've dealt with all of those things and so much more. I deal with constant gaslighting, seemingly about everything possible. Also what Kraken said, I'm just constantly fixing problems she created... even when I warned her before she made the problem.

Like we just moved into this place and now we're moving again 3 months from now (Military stuff), I told her don't use double sided tape on the walls because those walls are painted. I don't know if she was just jelly of me doing it down in the basement with concrete or unpainted wood, but she does it anyways. Up and down the hallway, in her bedroom, and all just to hang up cringe-ass pictures. So now we're moving right...

There is my dumb ass filling in the giant holes she made with spackling. I have to learn this shit because I never made holes in the walls... all off youtube. Sanding it down. Figuring out how to make the same color paint for two different colored walls, and then learning how to paint like an art duplicator. Hours of my life just because and then I don't even get a real "thank you" for it and that's just one example.

Then I get bitched at for things like listening to Pink Guy in the basement when nobody invited her ass down anyways.

https://youtu.be/OLpeX4RRo28?si=kaGhmxDhaD-AhKtH

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes sir, you are spot on correct.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I get chewed out for the stupidest shit. The only reason I'm sane is because I'm a major asshole that mentally does circles around her. A normal guy would've un-alived himself by now. But because I lay the pipe in keeps the peace. Thank the Gods I'm not a Bread winner because that wouldn't of got me this far. I'm just keeping the peace until that final kid is grown... then I'll take off and live off my 2.6K/month tax free VA disability money and find some hole in the wall to live in. Start banging poor chicks or something... if even that.

[Purpleronnie]

I have been there brother , and it doesn’t seem like long ago either.
I was “done” , broken for the last time , and just when I wasn’t looking I was picked up from the gutter , healed and made like new. It’s been a journey though ! In some sense my perception of what I expected needed adjustments. Additionally I needed to understand that I deserved the love that I needed.


I don’t think I could find the words to make you keep trying because there would be nothing wrong with your decision in choosing to remain single. As I said , I was almost convinced.


Just be true to yourself !

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the single life looks good on you, huh? 😏 It does seem freeing, like a fascinating tale of independence and a fuller wallet, ha! But, let's not be too quick to ghost love entirely. Finding someone who vibes with your independence and doesn't see your wallet as a magic trick is key. Keep your radar on for any red flags, but don’t slam the door on every possibility. Who knows? Maybe there’s someone amazing who’ll match your groove and not your bank account desires! 🌟😇

[Crimsyjo]

I could just copy and paste your post and change women to men...

I am better off financially more than I ever have been. I don't have to watch sports or stupid war films or whatever. I can decide what I want to eat, wear, drink. Where I want to go. Who with. I can come home and lounge in scruffy clothes if I choose. Leave the dishes. 😄

And of course I get to sleep with casual guys. And it's fun and exciting and if becomes less good I can just look for someone new who is fun and exciting again..

I still want to fall in love and have everything good that comes with a relationship. Presuming it don't just come with drama lol. But honestly I'm loving things at the moment so I have stopped looking for a while now. I'm still open to it. But in a year of looking I haven't found anyone decent.

[SnowyOwl]

Focus on becoming your best self. Don't completely close yourself off, so if a good opportunity comes you can cease it.

If you focus on your self development you will be more at peace. And that will definitely attract people, better people.

But genuinely do focus on yourself and do what makes you feel great

[Finchie40]

I don’t completely close myself off , I am just in no rush to meet anyone to rush into a relationship with , I just put an end to a horrible relationship that I was in and been focusing on myself , and realizing how better things have become being single again and just having fun , I am still flirting with girls’ and dating , but I am not rushing anything , every girl I meet I am honest with her that I am not rushing into anything , FWB’s has been the best thing for me lately it seems girls’ these days just want to hook up and have fun with barely any strings attached , so I am doing the same. If i eventually meet an amazing girl that I connect well with and have amazing chemistry with , I am not going to push her away , I am still going to treat her respect and kindness but I am going to make it clear to her that I need more time , that relationships are off the table until I really get to know you better.

[LiamJHayden]

No, but I do live by a simple rule:

A good or great relationship is better than being single. Being single is better than a poor or mediocre relationship.

[Finchie40]

I agree

[Fireguy17]

Yeppers.
I was single and loving it for a long time by choice.
I liked the freedom to come and go as I pleased and with whom I wanted to when the mood struck me.
I'm just fine not being in a relationship.
I have a great friend base, so I was just enjoying life.
No endless Saturdays stuck at her girlfriends 3 cousin's wedding, shopping at yet another place that sells towels, or whatever.
Life was good.

[ClassicDropout]

Been like this since day 1 tbh. I wouldn't mind if a relationship came my way, but you'll never catch me out trying to steal someone's heart ☠️

[lightbulb27]

yea was there.

things change. when find and reach good stability with an adult, it's good.

there is always give and take. if cannot handle some conflict, discussion, resolution, enjoy being single.

[MrPiercedD]

I'm a sexoholic. I don't mind being single, however it's impossible to find enough "short term" partners to fulfill my needs. So I can't imagine being single - or worse with a girl who doesn't needs sex at least couple times a day. Everything has own price...

[goodnightgrace]

Im starting to feel that way again right now. And I'm in a 3 year long relationship

[Little_Bumblebee]

For a long period of time I've been avoiding it. Been single for 4 years.

A part of me is hopeful to someday find someone, but overall I'm terrified to get back out there, and to end up with the wrong person.

[PeachyPie93]

Nah next week I am going on a date to a Korean BBQ which should be fun since I always wanted to do it.. first date in years, things seem to be looking up..
Don't give up shit can change very fast..

[Lottydotty]

there's an infinite amount of reason to not care for any of it anymore. Until you find the one reason to care, it's rough af

[exitseven]

I had a couple of bad relationships and was going through a big upheaval in my life. I was going ot move to Colorado and I was going to give up on dating for a while or maybe forever. Ironically I met my future wife the next day.

[Anonymous]

if you have a pattern of constantly meeting women who disrespect you, use and abuse you, then the problem is likely YOU, not them.

Coming on GAG every few days to blame women for all your misfortunes won't do you any good.

[Finchie40]

They usually don’t abuse me in the beginning , they just change after they get bored and all of a sudden they want to be selfish , by no longer really caring about my feelings and just make it about themselves and what is best for themselves , when that was never an issue between us before , they start blaming me for their selfish actions and behavior they no longer take accountability for their selfish actions , like how dare I want to be close to her , How dare I express my feelings to her when it was never an issue before. I can only give the same way I hope to receive , and usually in the beginning it here is no issues between us whatsoever, She is excited to see me. , excited to be in my arms , but after some time she just changes to someone i don’t even know anymore. Some butt heads and argue and come to a compromise by setting boundaries together that we both agreed upon , things will go back to being good between us again until she decides she wants to be selfish again , and no longer follows the boundaries that her and Inset together , she expects me to follow those boundaries but when it comes to her? She doesn’t , cuz she makes it all about herself , shifting the blame onto me when I clearly did nothing wrong. So until I find a non selfish girl that actually understands love and relationships my ass is staying single , I am in no rush to jump onto a commitment with anyone until her and I really get to know each other and we are completely positive we both want to be together Basically looking at the big picture before one of us is blind sided I am still dating and seeking a good girl just I am trying to play my cards right this time around.

[Opinion Owner]

You need to ask yourself : why is everyone else able to find decent relationships and marriages while you cannot?

Everyone has that one ex they just hate. But if you have a pile of exes and a pattern of bad relationships, the problem is YOU, not them

[Opinion Owner]

It has entirely to do with the way you select women to date. Do you come on too strong? Do you select women based off of superficial reasons? Do you ignore red flags? Do you date people that you have little in common with? Do you put too much effort in the beginning while she puts minimal effort?

[abbyjgriffin98]

I've been there. But I don't want to say I'll give up on love if love finds me. But I'm definitely taking my time from it.

[Nikki1989]

I would never think that. I am not a loser or a quitter with anything in life.

[Nikki1989]

And most people that say they are single “by choice” are just talking out their ass. Most, if not all, would jump into a relationship if it becomes a possibility.

[Finchie40]

I had plenty of relationships, and not saying I wouldn’t again , just I am in no rush to jump into one

[Dongie]

Oh, you're the one that knows everybody's needs and wants. I was wondering just the other day who the one person could possibly be.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I never faced the saturation point you're facing, all things considered and digested, relations are expanding my vision

[Crazzyyworld]

You just focus too much on how you look to her not knowing how she care about how she look. She could be a provider too if she looks good. Everyone wants to look good. Nobody wants to look bad.

[Unit1]

Nein. I love girls ❤️💕

[KrakenAttackin]

Yeah, I'm done with relationships. Women are too expensive, cause too much drama, and are too unpredictable. Aside from occasional sex, I don't miss having a woman in my life.

[Circushowcowboy]

I think it’s good to be comfortable being single. I am always open to a new relationship but I don’t want to be in one just to be in one

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I hady last relationship end before I turned 17, waited a year, did another one online then at the ripe old age of 19 quit the game altogether

[Landofifireandice]

I dated a guy who was a player but I descide. Dump him cause well

he was was my1st boyfriend and yeah no

[chrissykerdock]

depends what your looking for

[Finchie40]

Not really looking for anything , I realize being FWB’s with a girl is better thank rushing into a relationship with a girl , basically giving us both time to really get to know each other with the added benefits , for me to even consider another relationship , she is pretty much going to have to prove I am the only guy for her , because if not? She will not get my heart completely

[chrissykerdock]

your basically looking for a girl who will serve you which has it's merits if your submissive and your dminant

[Finchie40]

I do love submissive girls 😋

[Dongie]

Yeah, that's it.