Have any of you gotten so used to the peace that comes with being single to the point you dread the thought of a relationship?

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DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I dont dread it but I dont crave it either. I’m very hard to satisfy in the long run and I hate that but Im not gonna change how I am. I just need a break from disappointment because too many people can't keep up with me and that annoys me lmao. When I’m single, I expect less from others and therefore am less annoyed by them

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

That’s how you know how strong you are… and you’re not scared being alone. Even if another person comes along

dandrummond501 · Answer

I was in a relationship with the most beautiful women and I fell in love with her bad. But that's when she took the opportunity to be completely crazy and found out that she was cheating on me with any other person she could find. This tore my heart right out of my chest, so I have remained single and I have a fear of being with another woman again because of the way I felt inside I had never been in actual love until I met her yet even though I have a fear of being with another woman again I still have a massive desire to be with another woman again for some stupid reason. It's not that im crazy or don't want to be loved by a lady again. It's I don't want to be mad feel that way ever again I all Most killed myself and have remained single now for nearly 8 years. I believe that it's human nature to want to be loved unconditionally in a relationship it's a primative thing hardwired into our minds and it's extremely hard to be alone all the time. I still believe that I have a perfect match out there somewhere im just sick of the way I have been treated in relationships before

lightbulb27 · Answer

Sure I was like that in a sense for a long time, but I was also lonely at times and I felt the void as my age grew. For example, people at work would have family parties with kids, and I had none of it. I knew there was a void. I'd want to go on vacation or do something, and there wasn't anyone there to do so with. So I filled the void in other ways, by keeping busy, with pets, friends, with other peoples lives and making myself feel important.

You can't defeat your hormones and the nature of resolution in the heart which propels you forward. In reality, a lot of what I was doing was avoidance within myself. I was afraid, insecure, I had challenge to overcome and took a long time to do so.

I got married recently and been in relationship for 6 years. It's good to have someone to care about, do things with, be with. It took hard work to get there and I can see why couples struggle for some time.

However it goes, I hope you find your way. There's nothing wrong with being content in your own space, that's healthy.

Topaz1979 · Answer

yes but besides peace, being single can be an absolutely beautiful journey if a person learns to make the best of it!, it can be a journey of self discovery, building a relationship with yourself, spiritual awakening, contentment, pure happiness, independence, self improvement and you can learn the beauty of being individualistic in the way you think, see things and act!. and there's even more benefits to being single but even so it does not mean that being in a relationship is bad or it's better than being single no,

Anyone can make the best of either singleness or being in a relationship, none of these things is better than the other it just all depends on the person!. If you find yourself single then by all means reap the benefits of singleness, if you find yourself in a relationship then by all means reap the benefits of being in a relationship!. We should all just be happy with our dating status and know that being single is no better than being in a relationship vice versa.

Rosexøxø · Answer

Didn't dread it, but have seriously forgotten it. Once I told my sisters

"man and that's it! Get my car, job, and Imma be at the movies all the time LOL I'm 20! finally livin' my LYFEEE." As I said this, I put my arms up and did some weird kinda walk-dance, and they laughed, but it kind of faded...

One's in a committed relationship since 19 (22) now, and the other is a single mom who got preggo around then- though she had her crazy time on the town.

So naturally, I think we all knew I have the best trajectory XD. God, I love being the youngest.

All these guys love being bachelors, but I'm definitely a girl who loves being a bachelorette :] I'm gonna have my fun! OTAY!

Someone give me a high-five and shut the fuck up as I watch Jurassic Park dominion with my popcorn.

"Shhhh! Movie's starting!"

I'm so fucken excited!! Eeeeee!

:]

OpenClose · Answer

A lot of times I go mad at the lack of social interaction.

But I regularly see couples fighting over petty shit in the street. Or I'll message girls on dating sites and get the most petty drama. It reminds me that being single, while quite lonely, is quite peaceful.

Still want someone. I'm just picky about who I want and who I give my attention to.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

I chose to be introverted/be single, is more comfortable, no drama, no arguments, no regrets... nothing 🤷‍♂️.
Rather to be safe than sorry.
No geniune people left out there... been there done that, so nono... all good... i got soo much "used" that i got to the point and doing the same... just use "them" and... Next! No I Love You, No Drama! 🤷‍♂️

msc545 · Answer

Sort of yes. I think back about the trouble I've had with women in the past and I feel like I don't really want to have that trouble in the future. On the other hand, I also get lonely at times and wish I had somebody with me. It's very confusing and disturbing.

LazerBean · Answer

When you find the right person, a relationship is peace.

Anonymous · Answer

Can be a necessary step, sometimes being alone is my deepest wish, I really need it and want it, I can’t bare the idea of a single soul influencing me and I’m pushing everyone out… but I’m also craving love to the points it hurts me and it makes me sad to think that maybe I won’t find it

Heolurt · Answer

It's not that I dread relationships, I'm just a realist and I know in my life that's just something that'll never happen for me, when you're told as much as I have been told how ugly I am, you start to learn how pointless it is to look for someone who just doesn't exist so being comfortable alone is the only option and then you actually become so comfortable.

Juxtapose · Answer

Love shouldn't be hard and if the person you're with is making it hard perhaps you should reconsider why you are with them.

I want a lover, it's my greatest dream to get ultimate love. I want someone who loves me so much they would die to save me.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

I’ve been in relationships in the past and I know there are advantages and disadvantages. Advantages are companionship, support and of course sex. Disadvantages is they can get on your nerves, drama, problems, etc.

JosyJosy · Answer

I dreaded it a bit. Seeing my friends go through horrible breakups, and I'm was like "I'm good" but I'm in a relationship now and nothing toxic so far.

Anonymous · Answer

Me, I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve been liking the idea of being a relationship but then I also love my peace and alone time so much. I feel like being in a relationship there’s a weight on your shoulders and you feel like you’re on a timer when it comes to marriage and kids.

MementoMori_ · Answer

Yeah I can definitely relate. It's the first time in my life since I was a teenager I have been without a girlfriend, and I am loving the peace.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

I felt that way, but now I'm in a relationship with someone who also loves it quiet and peaceful. And now we are two people who like peace and quiet together.

Chris_Morgan · Answer

I'm conflicted about it. I was married for a long time so I know how difficult it can be, but I also never really feel complete unless I'm in a relationship.

Moose304 · Answer

Let me phrase it this way. I only have room in my bathroom for MY stuff! When a friends with benefits comes to visit she keeps her stuff in another place!

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Being single living alone has its perks sure. I'll patiently wait though until I find that one woman for me ☺️. Rather be patient for a true love, then be in a relationship with someone who disappoints and annoys me.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Living with someone else would be a huge transition. I would have to wear clothes all the time and I wouldn't be able to drink out of the juice/milk cartons.

Bethany22 · Answer

I don't dread the thought of a relationship, but I dread having to go out and meet strangers in order to meet that person

TrueConfection · Answer

C. Other I have been in the same relationship for so long that I dread the thought of ever being alone.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

I could date if I want to, but I also enjoy being single. Yet I would love to have a family someday, that's for sure. I'm not closing doors. ❤️

sheenagwapa · Answer

i am looking for love. i give highest priority to relationship

Lina26 · Answer

Yes. And I'm trying to date , but I love the peace that I'm having.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Yes! I always say how I’m ready for a relationship but then once one is presented to me I’m like

Tekkasonic · Answer

Yes, I'm not looking but I would appreciate the opportunity

Smoothing · Answer

Yes, I actually do however I miss having someone in my life.

Onashir · Answer

sometimes solitary is a blessing, but then I do miss the company of woman 1-2 hrs through the day lol

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I’m definitely conflicted especially lately for personal reason’s

Ninania · Answer

Kinda. I prefer to live alone, but that doesn't mean I have to be single.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes I feel forever single because I didn't get into a long-term relationship until later than normal and plus it doesn't feel like a normal relationship since there is a distance factor between us

BJP21 · Answer

There are those that are content with being single and there are those like me, who long for a lifetime companion.

TroyDT2 · Answer

No, but if she thinks I'm going to change my whole life for her it will not work out.

MysticDevice · Answer

Yeah pretty much. A partner would be nice, but I don't need one.

Minahh · Answer

I'm single for 3 months so far and is it peaceful! I know what I bring to the table, so trust me when I say I'm not afraid to eat alone ✌

MorgueInTheVoid · Answer

No but I don't know what's worse, getting comfortable being single and dreading a relationship or getting comfortable in a toxic relationship and dreading being single...

Anonymous · Answer

I'm used to living alone and no one hurting me. But i also love girls and want a nice girlfriend and be in love.

BLP11520 · Answer

Being married and unhappy like I am is no pic nic. Dating at my age would be hard if i divorce her.

ElvenMr · Answer

Not really, but with the right person it'd be great.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

I'm tired of having no sex and love so that's what I'd prefer overall.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm actually only that way with normal friendship, but not romantic relationships

taraburtch · Answer

I love being single but it does get lonely.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope. I don't see isolation as peace.

DermalPunch · Answer

I osscilate between A&B.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I've always enjoyed the freedom of being single.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, I long for a companion

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I felt that way during the pandemic.

es20490446e · Answer

It could be...

jimmy2 · Answer

It nice

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