Need advice. What would you do in the following situation?

[Anonymous]

I have a girlfriend (call her A) who I really love. I would do anything to be with her. It's a LDR but I offered that I'll travell to her every week if she wants and have time. And here comes the problem (s).

She is pretty much fine with only talking to each other once a week. Never anwsers sponaneous calls from me and texting is very slow (1msg/3 days). Rescheduling most of our trips, usually with strange reasons. Her girlfriends came (from different cities) to celebrate her bday and don't want to let them down. She will go to a concert with her girlfriend abroad... She does not add me on any social media platforms, because she is not using them, yet her follower numbers increase each week...

Lot of warning signs. I love her to pieces, she is my soulmate. She still making plans for future meetings, trips (usually a day long) that's why I'm confused. (Won't allow me to pay, she always wants to split). Tried to talk with her, she is fine with meeting only once a month and only calling each other weekly.

Now here is a twist. I teach (privately, not in schools). And one of my students (call her B) shows some interest. Actually a lot of interest. She is a little bit older than me (2-3 y), constantly messaging me, wants to go on a date, more than I got out of this relationship in the past year. And this is going for the past week, no date yet.

I don't want to play around with either of them. I want to be fair, but I don't know what to do...

"A" wants to go for a day long date between the holidays. I told her I would like to go for at least 2 days, she don't want to do that. While I love her very much, I can't really talk with her or even if I can, nothing happens or changes. With "B" talking, sharing is a breeze. She likes me very much, I don't have feelings yet, but probably can develop if I can end my previous relationship.

Don't want to be an a-hole. I will end my previous relationship before starting a new, but need help how I can solve a problem like this...

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a really tough situation you've got there, dude. You've got your girlfriend "A" who you care about a lot, but the relationship seems pretty distant and one-sided. Then you've got this other girl "B" who's showing a lot of interest in you. That's a lot to juggle.

I can definitely see why you're feeling so conflicted. On the one hand, you really love your girlfriend "A" and want to make things work. But the way she's been acting is super sketchy and distant. And then you've got this other girl "B" who's super into you and making things easy.

Honestly, I think the right thing to do here is to have an honest conversation with your girlfriend "A" about how you're feeling. Let her know that the lack of communication and the way she's been flaking on plans is really hurting you. See if you can work things out and get on the same page. But if she's not willing to put in the effort, then you may have to consider ending things.

As for the other girl "B", I would hold off on pursuing anything with her until you've figured things out with "A". It wouldn't be fair to start something new when you're still technically in a relationship. You gotta take care of your current situation first before moving on.

I know it's a tough call, but you gotta do what's best for you. Don't string either of them along or play games. Be upfront and honest, and make the decision that feels right. Your happiness and well-being are the priority here, dude.

Whatever you decide, just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons and not just because it's the easy way out. You got this, man. Just take it one step at a time and don't be afraid to make the tough choices.

[In_Trance]

Move on

[Asker]

So you don't think relationship with "A" can be saved?
Would you cancell the trip between the holidays?

Hurts to hear but I trying to prepare myself for that.