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I used to dabble a bit in drinking when I'd first moved from Connecticut to Texas although I did sip some alcohol back in Connecticut when my parents weren't home, and it was absolutely disgusting and my curiosity on it died right there.

My parents haven't had a good relationship, they're never really happy together and their arguments escalate into fights when, surprise surprise, they get drunk!

They keep vodka and gold tequila around but they drink Miller lite the most by a very wide margin. No exaggeration when I say that the night after they drink, there are cans everywhere and the garbage can is full of beer cans.

I got my toes wet a little more after I got my second job after leaving my first due to not enough hours and me wanting to deliver food instead of just making it. Don't worry, I never and I mean NEVER went near a wheel after having even the tiniest drop of alcohol but after work, I did drink sometimes.

In the past two years, I've stayed away completely from alcohol as the taste is abhorrent in all alcohols, it's just different levels of disgusting for each of them. It's extremely hard for me to get drunk and even then, any feeling of excitement wears off after 5 minutes.

After researching as well the impact that alcohol has on relationships, marriage and work, I've concluded that it's best to stay away from alcohol. Although I could've guess that impaired judgement leads to bad decisions.

I've seen the decay of a marriage that came from two narcissistic children trapped in the bodies of adults and that's certainly not what I want for me and my girlfriend who i hope to marry once me and her begin our careers and become financially stable. But thanks to healthcare costs for me due to a condition I have being at an average of $2,000 per month, I'll need to start my career before I can afford to live on my own.

Is that an attractive trait for a love partner to you?🤔

Lesbian women have a much more smaller and specialized pool to select from vs guys. I get that. But they also are not as threatening and virtually have no risk of the “creep” factor when approaching other women.

Good looking guys do get a lot more leeway to approach women when all else is equal. But even they have to be cautious of the “creep element”. These problems include:

- The girl they approach might just be in a bad mood.

- She might already be taken by a very possessive boyfriend (unbeknownst to the guy). A lesbian doesn’t have to worry about a violent backlash from a possessive boyfriend/husband unless she is over the top aggressive. Even then she well be dealt with more softly vs another man

- She might be one of the few women who doesn’t find him attractive (while most others do)

- He might inadvertently say or do something off putting when he was trying to come off as confident and funny.

- A lesbian can be more touchy/feely with other woman and has much less risk of having the other person get upset or worse

Overall woman are much less threatening to other women no matter their intentions

However a lesbian/bi girl does have another big challenge of knowing the other girl likes girls or not. Worst case scenario it’s just awkward if the other girl is 100% hetero. But not a big deal.

Usually these two things go hand in hand, and most girls say they like guys who are direct and/or confident. Genuinely good shy guys hear about this, and they work on being direct and confident, but sometimes, girls think the guy is a player because he's one or both of these.

It's perfect if the girl and guy just understand each other with no insecurities, but it isn't always as easy as it sounds. No guy loves that someone lacks trust in him, especially when he has done nothing wrong, so how can a guy meet a girl without worry about rejecting and at the same time not losing her trust?

Do you see how this process is so difficult for guys? I personally find this process absolutely fascinating, but I'm kinda weird in that way, and I know a most guys don't feel the same way. I am not saying it's definitively more difficult to be a man, but I know there are plenty of people who would say it's definitive, and to not acknowledge this issue for guys is just plain wrong.

Guys, you can feel free to chime in too.