Girls, Are you more likely to think a guy is a player because he's really direct or because he's really confident?

[Rab1901]

Usually these two things go hand in hand, and most girls say they like guys who are direct and/or confident. Genuinely good shy guys hear about this, and they work on being direct and confident, but sometimes, girls think the guy is a player because he's one or both of these.

It's perfect if the girl and guy just understand each other with no insecurities, but it isn't always as easy as it sounds. No guy loves that someone lacks trust in him, especially when he has done nothing wrong, so how can a guy meet a girl without worry about rejecting and at the same time not losing her trust?

Do you see how this process is so difficult for guys? I personally find this process absolutely fascinating, but I'm kinda weird in that way, and I know a most guys don't feel the same way. I am not saying it's definitively more difficult to be a man, but I know there are plenty of people who would say it's definitive, and to not acknowledge this issue for guys is just plain wrong.

Guys, you can feel free to chime in too.

Really direct gives more player vibes

Really confident gives more player vibes

Both equal

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Neither directness nor confidence indicate a player to me.

Personally, those are qualities I like in people in general. I don't really like having to be the one driving conversation or extracting information all the time. Confident and direct people tend to jive well with me.

Player vibes for me are in the eyes and the content of the conversation. I trust my instinct and that keeps me out of trouble.

If we can share a solid, enjoyable conversation and we can be clear about what we want, our limits, and our boundaries, I don't see how that's necessarily playing.

[Chazmatazz269]

In the end, the difference between “stalker” and “date” is 100% in women’s perception. If you’re not comfortable going to jail for a possible date, then ignore women entirely.

[LazerBean]

Neither one are indicative of being a player.

[Rab1901]

What's the biggest indicator for you when you just meet someone?

[LazerBean]

Pushy/says inappropriate things/suggestive or if I am already aware that they have a undesirable reputation.

[DizzyDesii]

If he's too direct/forward/pushy