I meant do you agree that girls that grow up without their mothers, more likely to be tomboys. I think these are dumb stereotypes
I believe it could propel a guy to either extreme if they don’t have a present father.
If they’re raised by their mother and their mother pampers them and they’re sort of a mama’s boy, then yeah, he will likely become soft.
But, if his mom isn’t really parenting him much like that and is more distant, or he’s more distant from her, then when it comes to becoming a man, the boy is going to feel lost.
And that’s when they’re going to go looking for a symbol of masculinity elsewhere, they’ll trying to find out what it means to be a man.
Then, they’ll likely learn from what they see in the media and try to take on all these stereotypical traits and behaviors of what makes a man — perhaps almost overdoing it because they’re not secure with their masculinity yet.
It’s these lost boys that gravitate towards influencers who are like, “Hey, I’ll teach you what it means to be a man.”
And then boom. You got all these young and impressionable boys that cling to Andrew Tate as their North Star because their fathers were not present for them (either mentally physically) and not parenting them as they should, teaching them what it means to be a man.
I grew up without my father. I have 9 combat patches. I have been engaged in hand to hand mortal combat. I have camped for over a week with nothing but my knife. I cut and split my own wood to heat my house. I have built most of the furniture in said house, admittedly with my carpenter mother's help on much of it, raised my own food. I've HALO jumped and dived with sharks, cliff dived, and been kicked out of more than one country (don't ask, long story). It has not been my experience that much of this falls in line with what is considered feminine traits.
That said, if a woman reading this is like "well I've done all that, too"... we should talk. Perhaps over wine. Semi-permissive environment of your choosing.
I disagree. While I think that there elements in family dynamics that could encourage tomboy or feminine personality I don't think parental status is it. I don't think it's an influence on sexual orientation either. From what I have seen kids of single parents both male of female with mom or dad either become monsters with an intense hatred and insecurity or become very close and fusional with their parent. What I noticed that's different is that in cases where it ends up badly with single moms, a girl will resent her absent dad and extend it to all men while acting desperate for male attention, like your typical daddy issues girl and for boys of single moms they will resent the mom who raised him more than the dad who didn't to sometimes an dangerous point. But for kids who work it out, they always have such a deep bond with their parent and usually become especially sweet people and good partners later in life for some reason.
No, doesn't make a difference. I grew up with mostly a father figure, mom was around but worked a lot so we never really hung out. I'm still "girly". Have many friends who grew up without a mum or without a dad and they're all varied in their gender expression.
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u I think guys who grow up without a father-figure are more likely to lack masculine traits, but I don't think the reverse is true for females.
It's more about which side someone was more influenced by growing up. If a guy grew up with a single mom and even hung around other girls, with little or no exposure to other masculine influences/figures like brothers, guys in school, male friends, etc. then he does tend to be softer and will see the world through a female lens.
The same thing might also happen to females who grew up in the same situations, but I honestly don't really hear about them growing up masculine. Maybe it's different for women who grow up exposed to mostly men, maybe it actually makes them want to be more feminine. Not sure.
I was raised by a single mother, but I had strong male role models in my grandfather and uncles.
Being raised by a single mother, I'd like to think it affected me in a positive way in how I treat and respect my wife and the other important women (friends and family) in my life. I've tried to be a calm and patient father to our boys, and passed on what knowledge I have about the world to them.
I think it has more to do with who do you look up to? Your friends? If a guy hangs around girls a lot from a young age they usually act feminine.. and its the same for girls..
I have never met my father, nor had a father figure. I was a tomboy growing up but now I am a mix of both.
There may be some truth to that but it is not written in stone.
No….
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