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Assuming you do not yourself adhere to gender roles. if you do then this question would seem unnecessary and odd 🙏🏼

This is not judgement against anyone’s preferred style of dating. And this is not about trying to change anyone. This would be someone who thinks they want a “fluid roles based on situation & competency not gender, egalitarian relationship’. As apposed to ‘hierarchal or strictly gender role based relationship’

So for example. They do not think they care about gender risks it’s not something something they say or think they are looking for but they have I become I explicably bothered if you’re a girl and you initiate a date or you are a boy and you ask her to take care of the plans.

personally I do not care who does what, I don’t want to control the situation and I do not want to be controlled. In dating like in a relationship I would want a team effort with people playing their strengths which will be unique to each person and hopefully comparable with their partner. I woke it get along with someone who disturbed if there is not behavioral segregation…

However, if someone had unconscious expectations of rigid gender roles, but did not consciously require it, I guess whether I stayed would depend on if they really were ok with things being fluid or only thought they were but deep down they wanted the gender role situation. I guess that’s take a bit of talking and some time to sort out.

I recognize certain traits may be more pronounced in each sex respectively, and I have nothing against anyone doing what they have natural feel for. I’m just not comfortable making an issue out of it and forcing anyone to perform in ways that they don’t gravitate towards naturally just to fulfill the idea that it “should” come naturally.

also I understand my example was heavily cliche’ — this is hypothetical and initiating is a fairly ubiquitous occurrence in dating so it seemed universally comprehensive & relatable. 🤷🏻‍♀️

On the poll, vote which you’d prefer to date then below explain if you are what you prefer. I think I’m the oddball out here but I kinda find it hot when someone knows what they want and is set in their ways/routine. I like to learn a lot about a person before dating them so that I know what to prepare for. But if they’re constantly changing who they are, how they act, and what they do, it confuses me. I like occasional spontaneity but not daily/weekly/monthly. I hate a predictable movie but I like a somewhat predictable lifestyle. Not exactly predictable but just knowing what to expect. If something changes our plans through a natural way of life then thats understandable. But i dont want a person who says or does one thing then totally switches up what they claimed they’d do. That is very scary to me. But if i know most of what to expect from the guy then I can decide early on if I even want to date/stick with him or not. May sound nuts but thats my preference. And if a person hates that preference, then they shouldn’t date me because I’m practically trying to date something similar to myself 😂

#FeelFreeToList #RoutineRocks lol