To all my oversized girlies,
Have you ever felt that you were too large to be pretty? The society we live in usually portrays the equation thin=attractive. And then there are men, boys who call themselves men because they like it plus size. Which leads us to second hand cringe because not finding a good boyfriend is the least of your concerns when you yourself are unhappy with your mirror reflection. Good job tho, boys.
But here's what to do :
1. Wear makeup
I dunno how many people have noticed this but black girls and fat girls on TV shows and movies usually aren't wearing any, while the skinny girl, the it girl or the main character usually has the clean beauty aesthetic, which is basically make-up that's so light and clever that it makes you think that's her bare face, when in fact it's not.
2. Don't shop with friends or family
I know women love to shop. Shopping is like one amazing excursion. Nothing wrong with that. It's just deeply upsetting when your friends fit into regulars or demand extra small outfits while you stuff yourself in something that ugly and comfortable. Of course, there a few shops that are more inclusive than others but most of the time, the dresses are for normal, average people... Which you're not, if you have curves on the wrong places. Note my sarcasm.
Best to shop by yourself. Personally, my mom shops for me because her fashion sense is just superior and she loves me so there's less room for judgement.
I noticed how styling is more important for non skinny girls as I walked through college campus where I witnessed that if you have your own distinct style, if you let go of unrealistic body expectations, you look confident and gorgeous.
Getting better friends can help too, in case your friend "jokingly" likes to call you jumbo, "jokingly" purposes you as dare, "jokingly" makes an innocent comment about your figure, and "jokingly" tells you you don't fit anywhere. Replace the @ssholes, they're dead weight.
3. Don't measure yourself
Just stop it. It doesn't help. As women, we're taught to look at ourselves in different parts. Its a quote from Tumblr that changed my life.
Don't take head shots because you feel the rest of you is ugly. Its not. It's different, different doesn't have to be ugly.
4. If the "miracle weight loss" company approaches you, show them the middle finger
Pretty self explanatory.
4. Follow Sierra Ann, and the likes
Most importantly, don't follow just the muscular and skinny and white people online. I get it, Lalisa has a hot figure, Jimin has small waist, Taylor Swift looks like a doll with a dash of Femme Fatale... But there also regular people. Regular people interested in fashion. Regular people that own their size with joy and pride, styles that do not involve Chanel, Versace and Rolex... Regular things.
Media and fiction has brainwashed us into thinking we need to be either slime or have an hourglass, if not, bam! Ugly. Which is so not true! So unfair!
Even fat characters — they're either bullied as main girl or are the sassy sidekicks. We need to change that.
5. Revamp your style and post pictures
Any fatphobic comment will be removed and blocked.
Clothes do make a man. Use shapewear, wear whatever you like, and always try new things so there's no regrets.
For the love of books, please quit watching the "self discovery" videos on YouTube regarding people turning their lives around as they drop lots of pounds by dieting and gym. Gym is good, but you should exercise to be fit not to promote unhealthy beauty standards, that's ridiculous!
6. Don't puke or use laxatives, I beg you
Either seek professional help with this, or have balanced diet. Balanced diet doesn't mean eating sprouted, boiled, tasteless food... Lol no. I mean if you wanna have ice cream and there's some in the fridge, say a bowl of it, eat only three spoons. That way you're satisfied, you had fun, and there's not much calorie gain. Controlled food habits.
Remember, it's more important to be active and fit than slime and tall.