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So my bf’s been in a bad mood for a while now, he gets pissed at the little things that I do. I’ve been giving him space and distancing myself from him, I don’t bother him anymore other than just to have a quick chat sending funny videos, I don’t talk about my problems with him bcs he has a lot to deal with already, I even keep quiet and learned to take the punches he throws at me (not literally, emotional punches) and brush it off as him having an off day.

Earlier he got annoyed because I asked him a question about how his day was and he said that I’m being insensitive and annoying. I said “it was just a question, no need to be aggressive please”. Then he went to work, he then sent me a bunch of texts consisting of long paragraphs detailing my mistakes.

He does this a lot and usually I would respond with me explaining myself and how he took my actions the wrong way, I also always apologize and promise to do better. But then he would blow up and start an argument, he would also say “let’s drop this” and I’d say “okay let’s” but then he would proceed with prolonging the argument all over again… I know his pattern and I’m not gonna play along with it anymore so I simply said “Okay, I understand” and left it at that.

He then texted me back saying that he doesn’t believe me and that he needs reassurance that I won’t annoy him again. I just said “Trust me, I understand what you’re saying, I hear you”. Then he said “k.” I know he’s pissed when he responds with that. But I didn’t bother responding after that.

Did I do the right thing or was I being rude? I just don’t want him to weaponize my words to start another argument so I kept it simple and straightforward. Plus he already painted me as the bad guy anyway…

I've read a few Reddit posts lately about gaming, and people seem to bash them loads.

1. Woman and son (12) both have switches (son also has playstation 4), and son broke his switch. He asked mum to play on the switch and she told him okay but not to download fortnite, (might have been Minecraft) as she doesn't have space for it on her switch. He deleted her stardew valley, and she ended up banning both her switch and his playstation as he deleted 60 odd hours of work. The son also managed to get ahold of a phone to call her mum, his gran, complaining about the mum and she started throwing shade on her daughter too.

The replies regarding this said gaming is for kids, just start over again is no big deal, it's just a game nothing to get upset over, you're childish and immature to enjoy such a thing. There only seemed to be a couple of comments in her corner: regardless of what the hobby is her son deleted 60 hours of work if that was a painting or some knitting you'd all react differently.

2. Man says to wife he'd pick her up at the airport at 9. Wife was calling at 8 to say the planes early can you pick me up, he didn't see the phone and 20 mins later he sees it responds and spends about 10 minutes finishing up his game and then leaves to pick her up and gets there 9:05. He tells her he didn't see his phone cause of gaming and it's on vibrate and they had a little argument (they reconciled by the end of the edit).

Some replies did say if you were picking someone up why wouldn't you have the phone on loud. But by the time I finished up the game and left the house it was ten minutes after the phone call. Was hated on tonnes loads of comments it's one thing if you were cooking, but a game, that would immediately be turned off the second after a phonecall.

- I'm thinking not all games have regular save points, and you don't want to lose progress. It's also not like game consoles of old, where you could just leave the game on, nowadays they turn themselves off.